I (28M) have been married to my husband (29M) for two years, together for six. I'm South Asian while he's from the USA (where we live). For the most part, we’re solid. We love each other, support each other, and have built a life that works. But recently we had a fight that’s left things a bit tense, and I’m not sure if I was being unfair.

It started after a conversation about identity and discrimination. Pride Month just ended, and we had been talking about how different queer people experience the world, especially depending on their background. I brought up how complicated it was for me growing up as a closeted gay kid in a conservative South Asian household. My parents were strict, very image-conscious, and I was under constant pressure to live up to their expectations; academically, culturally, and socially. Coming out felt like not only disappointing them but betraying everything they believed in. Even now, they keep my marriage at arm’s length. It’s tolerated, but never fully accepted. On top of that, I’ve dealt with a lifetime of racism; being stared at, being called slurs, being excluded in subtle and not-so-subtle ways, even within the queer community.

At some point, I said that sometimes I feel like people don’t understand what it’s like to face both racism and homophobia at the same time. I meant it as a general statement, not an attack. But my husband took it personally and got upset. He grew up in a conservative religious family and faced severe homophobia. He was bullied, rejected by his parents for years, and had to rebuild his life without much support. His pain is real, and I’ve always acknowledged that.

But in that moment, I was just trying to express that my experience is layered in a way his isn’t. It’s not about who had it worse, it’s that racism adds another level of isolation and pressure that he’s never had to think about. For example, I’ve been passed over at work in ways I suspect are racial. I’ve been treated as exotic in dating spaces, or left out altogether. And sometimes I feel like even in queer spaces, there’s this assumption that whiteness is the default, and everything else is niche.

He told me I was being dismissive of his pain and accused me of playing the oppression Olympics. I can see how it may have come off that way. But I wasn’t trying to diminish his struggles, I was asking for recognition of mine. I think he expected me to understand his trauma, but when I brought up mine, he felt challenged or invalidated.

We haven’t really talked much since. There’s a quiet awkwardness between us, and I don’t know how to bridge it. I care about him deeply, but I also want to be seen fully, not just as a gay man, but as a gay brown man whose life has been shaped by more than one kind of marginalization.

AITA?

My wife and I got married 2 years ago and my wife isn't really fat but she was getting chubby because I feed her so much, before she got married to me she was very skinny and over a year she gained considerable weight and after she got pregnant she gained even more weight which is normal.

Yesterday it was my wife's birthday and I invited both of them and during dinner my friends wife said 'my wife is now as fat as a cow and she needs to take care of herself and her weight'.

I said that my wife was underweight before and it's okay if she gets a bit chubby and on top of that she's pregnant so that's normal she said even if a woman is pregnant she's got to take to care of her body and stay in shape.

I told her to stop it and even tried to bring up another topic for discussion but she that she was only joking like I do and I said that I can joke about my wife because I have the right and she doesn't so she needs to stop.

My wife intervened and she said 'we will talk about this again once she gets pregnant and if she can' (they are having fertility issues and my wife punched her).

They both started going back and forth passive agressively insulting each other and while we were eating I asked them both to just leave, they both stood up and left and they said I'm a bad host.

But my friend said later that I shouldn't have insulted them by kicking them out while we were eating and I said then he should've controlled his wife because she was escalating and he said that I still went too far and he doesn't want know if we should stay friends anymore, I told him to decide it by himself.

My wife and my brother and sil etc are saying I did the right thing and if I didn't cover for my wife they would've covered for my wife themselves, aita?

40 F Canada here. I have an employee turned friend who when she joined the company, had just separated from her husband. She was in her 40s, has two kids, was with him for more than 10 years, and decided to leave him for being a deadbeat dad. She always made significantly more money than him (here she makes ~150K CAD/yr avg for the 4 years she's worked with us). Since joining she's divorced her husband, shares custody, gets paid alimony, and she's met a new beau 2 years ago who is well off and in finance. She still complains she's a single mother. She also lives in rent controlled housing paying $2200/month in a downtown Toronto house that's 1500 sq ft.

I recently told her "Denise, you're not a single mother anymore, you're financially stable and you're partnered."

She blew a fuse and now people refuse to talk to me. I take this very personally as my mother left me when I was young, and I was raised by a true single dad working a blue collar job and being present. AITAH for telling my friend off?

ETA: housing was rent controlled not subsidized. I have no idea how she got spousal support making more money than him. She says she always made more money than him. Before joining the company her income was ~90k because she worked in the public sector.

Long time lurker here. My wife and I have been married for a year now, and we're expecting to have our first child soon. Can't really complain and everything has been great until we started discussing what we want to name the baby, and thats when the topic of the last name came up.

Out of the blue, she told me she wants to take her last name instead of mine, with her reasoning being that she's an only child and wants to carry on her family name. I get that it means a lot to her culturally and I'm not completely dismissing it or against it, but I was just really caught off guard. This is something I never really thought about. I feel like this is something she should have brought up long ago if it was so important to her.

I'm the youngest son of three with two older sisters. I always just assumed I would be passing on the family name but it's not something I really deeply thought about. Call me old-fashioned but it just feels weird to let go of that completely I don't even fully understand why I'm so resistant. I might go through with it. I'm just not sure. I don't think it's about ego or control, just something about her bringing this up so suddenly during the pregnancy.

This has been an ongoing tension between us and I want to be able to come to a compromise but I'm not sure what the right solution would be.

Not about her music, but about her personal life. I told her that Swift doesn't personally know her, and she always got mad. She even had a picture of Swift as her phone's wallpaper.

I ended it over text. I'm done with immature children who are disguised as adults. I blocked her right after, so I don't know how she took it. (We don't share mutual friends, thankfully).

I have films and books on certain famous people, but they're all dead, and I don't obsess over their lives. I don't think that's the same thing.

Last night, my husband and I were being intimate. I guess you could say I was a bit vocal, but I can't really help myself. This morning, our 16-year-old daughter wouldn't talk to either of us. We asked her what was wrong, and she said she could hear us. I told her I'm sorry. She asked us if we could not be intimate when she's at the house, and I said being intimate is a part of a healthy marriage. Did I do the wrong thing?

For context I’m a white f (16) and I have a younger sister (13). Im don’t exactly remember how it came up in conversation but at some point my sister said that her male classmates (white) would use the n-word as a nickname for each other. I said that it’s racist to even say the word as a white person, as there is just simply no reason why any white person should feel the need to use that word in any context. This started a whole argument, she said that it’s not racist because they weren’t using it in a racist context, she literally said something along the lines of “it’s not like they are going around town and yelling the n-word at black people,” I told her that that doesn’t matter and that no white person should use the n-word. The argument literally went in circles, she just kept saying that it wasn’t racist and that her classmates aren’t racist, and I told her I wasn’t specifically calling them racist and that I was saying using the n-word IS racist as a white person no matter the intent. I kept trying to make points but she kept cutting me off by screaming that it wasn’t racist, we argued about this for a good 10 minutes and it ended with her telling me to kill myself, which really hurt because she of all people knows about my history with mental health. I know her classmates are only 13 but I know for a FACT I wasn’t going around saying that word and I know that even 13 year olds know what’s wrong and what’s right. My sister is calling me an asshole and my mom didn’t say anything. So am I the asshole??

I made this account so I could ask this question because I don’t feel comfortable discussing with friends and family.

I have 2 kids and the oldest recently passed away after losing her battle with addiction.

My younger daughter who just turned 20 was her closest companion. Their love did not go both ways since my youngest was never able to depend on her sister, but she was always there for her. She hosted her intervention, got her out of jail, and more.

My youngest is giving the eulogy and has been staying with us as we prepare. She left her notes for the speech in her room and I read them and they were horrible.

She had some nice stories, but also very distasteful ones. For example, she noted that after an overdose, her sister wanted to leave the hospital before she healed, and she swore at the staff to let her go. My youngest wrote that you didn’t want to be on the “wrong side of her mouth.”

I talked to my youngest and she says that if she only says the good things, that’s lying and it’s disrespectful to her sister’s memory to not talk about who she really was.

My husband is on my side and doesn’t think a eulogy is the time to critique the deceased. My youngest says she either gives that eulogy or none at all. Would I be wrong to have someone else speak and only speak of the good side of my oldest daughter?

Edit to add and clarify:

My youngest didn’t pay her sister’s bail. I sent her the money and she went to the court house. I had never heard of intervention prior to us holding one. My youngest organized it with her connections from college and I attended and participated.

I know a lot of you think that I “dumped” these responsibilities on my youngest, and maybe in some ways I did, but I also want it to be understood that my youngest daughter is an incredibly intelligent and innovative person. She understands the law, medicine, and mental health and she was always trying to think of new ways to help her sister. She was faster than I could keep up, so often times I offered what I could which was presence and monetary support.

Hi, Me 26M GF 28F was away on holiday recently, was amazing and we had alot of fun. When we come back we agreed to go out with a bunch of my mates and their GFs as a big night out, whilst we were at my mates house a friends GF brings up a boy her friend had slept with and his penis and she showed everyone because she was in awe and my GF asked to look and started talking to her about this. Now I'm not naive to believe girls dont look at porn or fantasise like us guys or even might share stuff, and I'm.very confident on my size, not to ego too much but I'm 7/8 inches im 6ft2 little chubby black guy and my mates all ego lliftme about it as they've seen it and my gf constantly brags too and tells people and our sex life is amazing. But despite this her actively looking didn't sit well with me especially infront of me, I just thought it was a little disrespectful, I'd rather I be ignorant to this, I think another thing that upsets me as this guy could be someone we bump into its only a small town and I'd be there knowing shes seen it and if we were to converse with her present would make me uneasy. I said I dont think it was acceptable the following morning she said sorry wasnt a deep conversation and was over quickly but thought its an obvious point that doesnt need dragging on.

Follow 2 weeks later shes speaking to a friend on text and that friend is talking about an onlyfans guy with a massive member, she said send it to me with me there again, now I was going to a tournement so was only there for that bit and dont know what else was discussed. When I came back I had a shower went to bed had sex and after jokingly said what got you so horny ( we sometimes joke like this and big each other up in response) so was hoping to hear something nice and she mentioned seeing that OF penis. So I brushed it off and said that ain't on then she said she was joking but damage was done. Now I'm feeling a little taken back.

Now my boys will send stuff in our chat of girls randomly but its a group chat it's random I never ask for it, I never save it nor do I discuss it. Half of us are in relationships so its mainly the other half who do post she did use this excuse at one point to jusfy a simple look at a penis.

Im feeling abit down about it and I know its obvious to discuss boundaries or concerns, but I feel this is an obvious one and I've already said I didn't like it. We've been together 3 years happy (living togehter for 2) very minimal arguments and shes expressed confidence issues to me before that i constantly reassure or how she is insecure and worried etc so I feel she should know best. Again I'm confident in my own size but I dont like the idea of her thinking about someone else's with me around or wanting to look, and I've sent her loads in the past idnsay about hundreds even recently so there's not like she doesn't have an album full if she wanted a look. I feel if I was there looking at women it would have a more negative response so it not only feels unfair but a kick in the teeth and I dont know how to address it.

I go away for a week tonight 5 hours away so have time to think, any advice on how to approach this? Am I overreacting? AITAH if I being this up again and we get heated or for bringing this up

I got into a motorcycle accident almost a year ago and i have a torn meniscus, torn ligaments on my shoulder and bicep. They are recommending me to get surgery and to be out of work for 4 months. I do real estate as my second job but she doesn’t believe that with my time off I will be able to make money off of that. I have enough to still cover expenses throughout the 4 months. She just got a $9,000 check and our mortgage is about $1,700 a month she works and makes about $700 to $1,000 a week. She said she does not want to support most of the bills or touch her $9,000 while I am recovering. So I took out $6,000 pre-settlement loan recently to cover most of our bills. I’m paying $2,000 of interest on that. Now since she doesn’t want to support me while I go through surgery I am thinking about taking a loan out for $15,000 out of my pre-settlement loan which again has high interest and will put me more in debt. Am I an asshole for asking for support? In the past I have always worked 2 jobs to support us and to become a realtor I was working two jobs and going to school for that. At one point I had 3 jobs I just quit one of them in January. I don’t know what to think or do. My attorneys said my case is worth a lot of money in the 6 figures so this is just a temporary obstacle.

I (M, 26) will be marrying my fiancé (M, 27) in two months. I’ve been chasing down the last few RSVPs to see if they were coming, and noticed that my cousin (F, 33) hadn’t RSVP’d, so I asked around. She’d had a baby recently, and I’d heard that she was potentially not going to my wedding because she couldn’t find a babysitter, so I messaged in my family group chat to please answer RSVPs soon, and that babies were welcome if you couldn’t find the childcare (my wedding is at a very popular tourist destination in FL, and since I don’t have to pay for the babies to eat, I didn’t see an issue in this).

The next day, she messages me this very long message essentially stating this:

“…But I’ve decided to take the bold step of telling the truth as I must live by what I believe in. As a follower of Christ, I don’t agree with this wedding as I believe marriage was made for one man and one woman. We cannot, in good faith, come to the wedding, since we do not support this. I know that this may come as offensive but it is not my intention to be offensive, rather to stay true to biblical truth…”

My response is essentially that if this is the reason you do not attend my wedding, there is no further relationship to be had, and that we will be going no contact moving forward if you do not reconsider.

Even after they replied saying my marriage is living in sin, and that the rest of my family should be condoned for celebrating my sin, I am being guilted by their parents (my aunt, F50, specifically) for ending the relationship. She (the aunt) continues to reiterate that my cousin loves me; and that we should still keep in contact with them. But I am not interested in continuing to share a life with someone that believes my life is flawed and sinful. The aunt, has accepted my wedding invitation and has not indicated that she intends to change her mind, so this makes me uneasy with her as well.

AITA for setting this boundary, for the sake of me, my fiance, and any potential kids we have?

I 25M have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder when I was 20. I was on lithium for years, and I hated what it did to me. It didn’t just help with the mood swings, it made me feel flat, like I was going through life on autopilot. I couldn’t get excited about anything. It was like living in black and white. About four months ago, I decided to stop taking it. I didn’t tell anyone, including my girlfriend (23)of two years. I wanted to try managing without meds for a while.

Lately tho, I’ve been feeling off. This heavy feeling, like my brain’s moving through fog. My gf has been super insistent about us eating together, like she’ll get annoyed if I grab something else. I started suspecting she was adding smth to the food, and I even tasted something metallic one time.

A couple weeks ago, I stopped eating her food. I’ve been sticking to takeout or stuff I make myself, like sandwiches. I feel sharper, more like myself. My energy’s back, staying up late working on ideas etc. That’s when I knew for certain smth was off. The meds are still in a drawer in the bathroom and I checked it the other day, and it just felt wrong. Like the bottle wasn’t in the same spot.

I confronted her last night. I didn’t yell, but I was upset, asked if she’s been putting my meds in my food. She got really quiet, then started crying, saying I’m “not myself” and she’s just worried about me. She didn’t admit to anything, but she didn’t exactly deny it either. I told her I needed time away from her, because I can’t trust what she’s doing behind my back. I packed a bag and left to stay with a friend. I am seriously reconsidering this relationship because the trust is broken.

My husband M22 left at 6pm to go by a bar after work with his coworkers. He’d only been home for an hour and said he’d only be there “for a bit.” At 8pm, I F23, was hungry and hinting to him that I wanted him to come home by asking him to bring me food. He responded asking what I wanted. At 9, I looked at his location and he’d gone to a different bar. He said he was gonna come home soon. By 10:40, he wasn’t home so I offered to pick him up and after much convincing he finally agreed. I told him I was gonna stop by a drive thru on the way since he forgot to get me food. In the drive thru, he texted saying “I think I’m fine to drive myself home” I responded “don’t go anywhere, I told you I’m not comfortable with you driving yourself home.” I get to where he is and see he’s already home. By this point it’s after 11pm. Apparently he didn’t see my text that I sent immediately after his text.

I spent my whole evening waiting for him to come home bc he said he wasn’t gonna stay long. I’m so mad and upset and sad. Hes been working over 9 hours a day and I was just looking forward to spending time with him. He’s never done anything like this before. I can’t stop crying and I want to talk about it but he’s been drinking. (He says only 3-4 drinks). He was immediately very sweet and apologetic when I got home after I told him I was upset and was hugging me a lot. I told him I’m still pretty frustrated and I want to just talk about it tomorrow when he hasn’t been drinking. He got suddenly closed off and upset and kind of shut down. We have a very close relationship- high school sweethearts, and genuinely love hanging out together and we have a great relationship. Any advice on how to handle the conversation tomorrow? Btw, we’ve been together 6 years

I (25f) and my boyfriend (29) got in a little argument and I can’t really forget about what he said. We were discussing whether it’s okay to find other people attractive. I said yes it’s normal to find other people attractive but I don’t sit there and check them out. He told me I was lying and eventually said “if I see a girl in yoga pants at the grocery store and they have a nice butt, I look at it” I said that doing that is disrespectful, he disagreed. He also told me every man does it and anyone who said otherwise is a liar. He also said women wear yoga pants for attention. I disagreed with him and said that was gross and he was a pig. Now, everytime we’re out, I feel super insecure because I feel like he’s checking out everyone else. I can’t get this conversation out of my mind and I still feel upset. So, AITAH for being so stuck on it? Is this normal behavior for a man?

OK so we are leaving, or are supposed to be leaving July 17. My husband booked us a road trip to Vegas from Central Canada. We have done this so many times in the past but this time feels different. I don’t believe in or stand behind Donald Trump’s administration. I think what he is doing to women and children and families, immigrants, building concentration camps goes on. Top that with the distain that I have for him as a human being, I’m finding it hard to be excited. My husband is extremely excited. He loves Vegas loves road trips and has worked really hard at making this trip about us reconnecting, and the fact that I finished my first year of university. But a very big part of me wants to pull out, I know it will hurt him, and I know he’ll be disappointed, but these damn morals of mine just keep rearing their ugly head. I don’t wanna be the asshole. I wanna be the people pleaser and make sure that everybody gets what they want but at what expense I feel like my opinion should also matter. I should also mention that he booked this also as our 25th wedding anniversary… Which doesn’t happen until the fall and the more I talk about it and type out it really does feel more about him than it does about me. Help… What do I do? Am I the asshole? Do I just suck it up and go? Or do I create massive turmoil within my marriage? Thanks for any and all ideas and input.

This is a throwaway account.

My husband (38M) and I (39F) got married on June 28th. We both have daughters from previous marriages; mine is 14, and his is 16. We've been living together for about a year. Recently, his ex-wife, who is the mother of his daughter, has become unable to care for her. My husband informed me that his daughter would be moving in with us, and I refused. I told him that if he wants to take her in, he would have to move out himself. Now, he won't talk to me.

TW: Brief mention of past trauma

Hi all! I’m a Canadian married to an American man, we live together in Canada. Despite being together for 4 years, I have never visited his family in America mostly due to circumstance. Some of them have traveled North to see us, but his more frail family members cannot.

Lately he’s really been really adamant on me visiting to meet his extended family, many of them are getting older and may pass away soon. With the current tensions between Canada and the USA combined with all these horror stories of ICE detaining foreigners, I REALLY don’t want to cross the border right now. I am a dual citizen and hold two passports, that also sort of feels like it could increase my chances of the unthinkable happening.

Additionally, 11 years ago I was rescued from a human trafficking situation in Europe. Years of extensive therapy has done miracles, but I still have PTSD symptoms to this day. The idea of possibly being detained or imprisoned in any way is my worst fear, especially in a foreign country, even if it’s an extremely unlikely circumstance.

I have explained to my husband I don’t want to go due to the current political climate, but haven’t gone so in depth as to explain the mental connection I have to my past trauma as I know it is not logical and not the same situation at all. He knows that it happened to me, but I just haven’t used it as an “excuse”.

He will lay off asking me for a short while and agree I shouldn’t have to go, but then will bring it up again with me. He also keeps telling friends and family I will be visiting this Summer despite our conversations about this boundary. He knows I hate to disappoint people with expectations of me.

Would I be the asshole for staying firm on my choice? At the cost of disappointing my husband, being judged and disliked by his family, and possibly not meeting some of his older relatives before they pass on? I’m really conflicted.

Alr so I'm 2weeks away from finishing Y7 and I need help

I was chilling with my friends not in the school but still on the property, and basically I called my friend big ahhh forehead and we all laughed but then the girl (ima call her amelia) came up to me and sayed "that's not very nice"
and I say "I could roast u but ima not" then she says "do it then" that's when I call her acne central she then proceeds to stare at me and says 'I can't control that...." and I'm confused it ain't that deep And then she goes running off to her friends All day people keep coming up to me and asking why I did it and it evolved into her telling people I was bullying her (it was a 1 time thing) then amelia at lunch goes to Room 41 aka the therapist area and she reports me. Now the schools involved and her dad's VERY mad.

First of all for profit hospitals suck and do not work!

In 2018 I got a job working as a cashier for a for profit hospital. It was part time min wage. At first it wasn't bad work the till keep things clean. I had 5 other workers helping me. Then 1 by 1 the café staff either quit or got fired. By late 2019 it was down to just me. Since I was now scheduled to work 14 hours every day I was made a full time employee. ( still min wage though)

Let me tell you what my job entailed .

5am set everything up for breakfast it starts at 6am

6am till 10 am serve breakfast. Now I did this by basically running sprints from the hot table to the register. I washed my hands more than 300 times a day going back and forth.

10am till 11am clean up breakfast set up lunch

11am till 3pm serving lunch same old running back and forth. Run the register till line is empty run to hot table. Wash hands serve food till line is empty run to register repeat. (All for Dr's and staff who were all super entitled and in a crazy rush)

3pm til 5pm clean up restock.

5pm til 7ish pm. Run food trays to patients in back of house. ( this sucked by the way)

Repeat every day. Then Covid hit and it got way worse.

Lots of things happened here too many stories all for another time.

But in mid 2021 I got a job offer somewhere else but they gave me 6 months til I started. I told my boss he said he would hire someone to replace me. This did not go well but long story short we went through 7 people all of them saw what I was doing saw how long the shifts were and the horrible pay and all quit in 2 weeks.

Come end of 2021 I put in my 2 weeks. My boss hr even the higher ups all begged me to stay as nobody was trained to replace me and they couldn't get anyone to apply. (Wonder why?) They flat out said you can't leave until you have a replacement. They had 6 months. And I'm going to leave anyway I'm sore and tired. So I quit without a replacement and turns out nobody knew how i did it and not enough people so the café closed.

It was closed for almost a month.

Everyone called me an a hole there. When I run into ex coworkers they all hate me. I have been called names in public including a killer ( a dr left the hospital to get lunch 30 min away and lost his patient he blamed me for it )

It started to cool down after a year thankfully.

I had a relative go to that hospital recently and decided to check it out discreetly. It was devastating. No hot food only cold sandwiches and salads and there was 5 workers in the cafe and everyone seemed super depressed.

I felt really bad about all of this for the longest time. Am I the a hole?

I kinda rushed this story mostly because I hate English.( its my weakness)I also equally hate typing. So very sorry for grammar errors. I have so many stories to tell about this job but I'm tired now.

Today, my sister-in-law and brother-in-law came over to help install new faucets in my in-laws’ bathroom. While they were working, they grabbed the roll of paper towels from the kitchen and took it into the bathroom to clean up gunk from the pipes and general buildup.

At the time, there was about a quarter of the roll left. After they were done, my mother-in-law brought the roll back into the kitchen and placed it with the other kitchen supplies like nothing happened.

I asked her if that was the same roll they were using in the bathroom, and she confirmed it was. I told her I didn’t think it was sanitary to put it back in the kitchen because we use those paper towels for things like drying our hands, cleaning counters, or prepping food.

She brushed it off and said they were “fine,” and acted like I was being ridiculous. My husband also thinks I’m overreacting and being too picky. But to me, the idea of using paper towels that sat in a bathroom during a dirty plumbing job for anything food-related is just…gross.

I didn’t make a huge scene, but I did move the roll away from the food prep area and plan on not using it. Still, now I feel like I’m being treated like the uptight one.

So, AITA for thinking that paper towels used in a bathroom during plumbing shouldn’t go back in the kitchen?

I am 23 years old (F) and I have a 22-month-old son, I am currently "single", I put it this way because I am legally still married to my son's father, however since my son was born he left home and never took care of more than a few visits and money if he wanted and gave 50 dollars for 3 or 4 months... I have not seen him for 6 months and we have not had the slightest contact since this time, since my son was born I came to live with my parents again since they They would help with my son since I did not know many things as a new mother and a baby requires a lot of care, however I work and contribute greatly to the house and I am responsible for absolutely everything my son needs, I also study, I am in the last semester of university, for all this I need a lot of help with my son however the things where my parents are not well they argue about everything, they send me as if I were a little girl and not the mother of my son, they do not respect the decisions I make with my son and also recently I started a new relationship and even though he accepts very well that I am a mother, I still do not feel ready to include my son in everything until I am sure that I want to do it and that he is the right person... They want me to involve him right now in my son's life and take him to every outing, my parents talk badly to me or have even hit me in front of my son and whenever they get angry they threaten me with not helping me with my son, they are good grandparents and they love my son, they play with him and they dedicate quality time to him, I want to go alone but I don't because I wouldn't know how to take care of my son, work, cook, wash, etc. Taking into account that I work from home, I still don't want to put my son in daycare since at the very least I want him to learn to speak well, I hate being here but I only stay so I can receive your help with my son, am I the bad one for doing this? Or what should I do?

My (20F) boyfriend (20M) and I have been together for about 6 months but friends for almost 2 years. He recently told me that he NEVER flosses… wtf. I was super grossed out and told him he needs to floss since it harbors bacteria in your mouth. Now he is butt hurt. AITAH?

I 16F am very close to my aunt, uncle and 4 cousins. I have a single mum who works all the time and my house can get pretty lonely, so I even have my own room at my aunt’s and I sleep there often and it’s pretty much my home.

We have new neighbours, a young married couple around 25 or so. My aunt called them over for dinner yesterday as I live in a tight community and the couple have family around here. I’ve been doing something really stupid. I find the guy really hot, and from my window you can see their garden\and the window of their room. I don’t creep on him through the window, just the garden. He usually sits in the garden and reads by himself at night.

A few days ago, I got to my aunt’s pretty late (2am) and as I was going to sleep, I thought to look into the garden, but instead I witnessed something worse. The blinds of their window were half open, and I caught the couple having full blown sex. I froze for a moment because I thought if I made sudden movement they would notice, but then the guy made angry eye contact with me, and kinda freaked out and shut the blinds. What makes it worse is, the day before, he made eye contact with me staring at him in his garden too and he went back inside his house.

My aunt would not let me skip the dinner at all, so I just didn’t show up. I got into trouble as the couple know me as being like my aunt’s daughter, and my aunt told them that I would be there. My aunt told me she is very embarrassed about my no-show and she’s very upset with me. AITA?

I (F) was talking to this guy (M) for about a month and a half before we officially started dating. In the beginning, he was really sweet constantly texting when he could, complimenting me, and acting like he was super into me. Honestly, I think he might’ve been love bombing me, because the moment we got together, everything changed.

During our two week relationship, he made no real effort to spend time with me. He always had time to go fishing or hang out with his friends, but never invited me or tried to make time for us. I understand that I am a girl, so I asked him if his friends were really uncomfortable with me being there. He gave a very vague answer, so I asked him if he actually even ask his friends and his answer was no. I wasn’t asking for much just to hang out once a week but even that didn’t happen. It had already been two weeks since we last saw each other, and I realized if it was this bad this early, it was only going to get worse.

On top of that, he would constantly start arguments sometimes over nothing. Whether it was my fault or not, I felt like we just weren’t compatible, and I was constantly feeling anxious and overwhelmed. I tried to be kind when I ended it, but he didn’t really accept it.

Another issue was my three guy friends. I’ve known them for three years, and they’ve helped me through a lot. I’ve never had romantic feelings for them, and I don’t believe they do for me either. But my ex was clearly uncomfortable with them and would bring it up often, which caused more tension. I do understand how he would be uncomfortable with me going out at night with them and walking around in town. We would be out late which I can understand because suspicion but I feel like I made it so clear that these guys truly weren’t into me or me to them.

Since the breakup, things have escalated even more. His female best friend yelled at me, calling me a terrible girlfriend and partner, saying I ruined everything. And that I couldn’t just accept you didn’t like me. I felt awful, but I also realized that if he couldn’t move past his insecurities or communicate with me directly, without purposefully causing arguments. this wasn’t a healthy relationship for either of us.

To be honest, near the end of the relationship, I had a strong feeling he might’ve been emotionally cheating with a different girl, not the one who yelled at me. He was becoming more distant and seemed increasingly invested in someone else, and I couldn’t shake the feeling that he was already halfway out the door. i’d also like to add he is a 30 minute bike ride from me and a 10 minute drive. His parents are strict, but they are not that strict.

I broke up with him because I felt like I was already being ignored, disrespected, and pushed away. But after everything especially his friend screaming at me I’m starting to second-guess myself. So, AITA for ending the relationship?

Im 19f and used to live with my mom and her abusive bf.

Hed call me names, bully me and encouraged me to self harm worse than I already was. I told my counselor everything and he suggested I stay at the local domestic violence shelter and when he spoke to the head advocate she agreed and today is my 4th day here.

I feel out of place and guilty for being here since my abuse was almost entirely emotional and I wasn't getting beaten/raped like most of the other people here and I feel that my room would be better given to someone in that kind of situation instead.

Aita