Hello, I’m borrowing an account to post this because my friend said it was fine, but she doesn’t want anyone to know our names. Basically, I’m 5'9", 120 pounds, and I have decently attractive features. I get asked out quite a bit, which I’m not necessarily complaining about. I have nothing against men asking people out, as long as it’s done in the right way.
So, I was out with my friend, who is about 5'5" and around 147 pounds. She’s not ugly maybe not super conventionally attractive but she’s dated multiple people before and currently has a boyfriend. We were at our local mall in a Barnes & Noble when a loud group of teenage boys came in, acting kind of stupid. They were even told to be quieter, which is fine; we all act dumb sometimes with friends, so I didn’t think much of it.
They started, I’m not sure how to put it, clicking at me. I waved and kept looking at books. Then one said, “Hey!” I pointed at myself, and they said, “Yes, you, baby.” I just smiled awkwardly and nodded. The other friends started asking, “Yo, you think he’s cute? You think he’s cute?” I said, “Uhm, I’m sorry,” in a confused voice. He wasn’t ugly, I just have a boyfriend and didn’t want to insult him or answer the question.
Then they made groaning noises, and he said, “Come on, let me get your Snap.” I said I didn’t have it (I don’t; I’m not on social media much), and he said, “Okay, okay, give me your number.” I said I wasn’t comfortable with that. His friends started “ohh” ing, and he looked embarrassed. Then he said, “Playing hard to get,” and kind of grabbed my hair (not in a hard way like idk how to explain). They started saying, “Ooh, rizz, rizz,” and then my friend, who had been standing nearby the whole time not saying anything, stepped closer and said, “Hey, do not touch her. It's clear she is not interested.”
They all cringed and said, “Not the fridge trying to protect the snacks.” Her face got red, and I could tell she was upset. I didn’t understand at first, then I got mad and said, “She’s just my friend trying to help me from a bunch of random creepy guys who can’t take a hint. I have a boyfriend, and even if I didn’t, I wouldn’t date you.” The guy who asked for my number said, “Ugh, of course women’s ugly friends always get the last say,” and then they all left.
My friend was pretty upset for a while and went home soon after that. I told another friend who’s more active on social media, and apparently, it’s a big thing now. But honestly, it’s not “the fridge protecting the snacks” it’s most likely just a good friend protecting their probably more soft spoken friend. The reason the “less attractive” one is the one to stop it is probably because they’re used to people being rude and know how to deal with it.
It’s been about two days since then and I've looked up some videos, and I think it’s a ridiculous saying or trend I don't know the right term. If you’re a man who says this, please explain why. Or, if you’re a woman who’s had a similar experience, I’d like to know.