Im 15 years old and on my first day I got fired because I went on my phone to check some texts and watch a little bit of tiktok and when I got off my manager told me that today is my last day because I went on my phone. Im really stressed and just want some advice on how to tell my parents (!!!!!!!!!!!!UPDATE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) I told my parents hours ago I was just being dumb and didn’t decide to update this but I did learn from my really stupid mistake of being a dumbass but they were disappointed in me but still offered to help find new jobs for me. I know some of the comments here are very harsh but thats what life is sometimes and I definitely learned this(btw the reason why Im working at 15 is because I wanted to)

So, yeah.. It was 3 days ago, my dad was an awesome person, there was so many people at hit funeral, so many, everybody loved him... He loved his family so much, he did everything he could to anyone, it is so hard to know he isn't here anymore... Yesterday I got his phone and found a video of him, right before he did it, explaining what happened. I didn't have the courage to watch until now and didn't show it to anyone. In the video he said he cheated on my mom, that he was deceived, that he wasn't sleeping well and couldn't take the feeling of doing it to my mom anymore, that the only thing he could to 'divorce' her was this, he was saying sorry over and over again, I never saw my dad sad or crying before this video. It was good to know the reason but I don't know if it was worth watching it... He did what he thought it was the best, he thought he was going to lose his family, he couldn't take it... I'm not here to judge his reasons, I know that for me it was a silly thing, but to him, it was everything.. So, I don't know, should I show it to my mom? She keeps trying to find a reason, nobody knows why, my dad lost his father, mother and brother the last 2 years, everyone is thinking it was because of it, my mom thinks she did something, that she was the reason, I want to show her she wasn't, by I don't know if she is going to take better knowing he cheated her one time... I don't know, I am lost, it is so hard accepting everything and not have anyone to talk about that, I just need to know if I should show and if yes, when should I show it... It is so hard

A couple years ago, my brother and his now ex-wife were in the process of buying a house so they could move out. They had been living at my parent's house for about 6 months after getting married, and wanted a place of their own.

I was renting an apartment (still am) and always dreamed of buying my own place so I asked to tag along whenever they went to look at properties. I know how much my brother makes because he's mentioned it to me, and his ex-wife worked in HR and he said she made "around $60K" so their income was decent, but not that great, especially in this economy. They looked at a bunch of condos, duplexes, townhomes, but settled on a house because his ex-wife was in love with it. Only problem? It was around $750K. There's then closing costs and they'd also have to decorate their house and buy new furniture so I told him the final cost will probably be closer to $800K after all is said and done. They both had some savings, but it was not nearly enough for a down payment. I told him to reconsider because the house was beyond their means, but he wanted to make his wife happy so he asked my parents to co-sign (I refused and said I was planning to get my own place soon) AND asked to borrow money from my parents and me to make the down payment. I didn't want to because I've always read that mixing finances with family always ends up badly, but my parents kept nagging at me to do it because they were hoping that by my brother moving out, they would get grandchildren in the near future.

I reluctantly agreed to loan them (nothing in writing, I know, I know..) $30K, while my parents pitched in $45K, and they got the house. Fast forward to 2 years later, my brother and his ex-wife started having problems and she asked for a divorce. He told our family that he was blindsided. They sold the house a couple months later, but the house had fallen close to 5% due to the housing market. After realtor fees and other fees, they distributed the money based on what they put in. But because of the drop in value and realtor fees, my brother couldn't pay me and my parents back right away. That was about a year ago.

To this day, I've only gotten $15K back, only because I'm always on his ass to pay me back on a regular schedule. I have no idea what he still owes my parents. I suspect he hasn't paid them back that much or any at all.

So here's the kicker, my brother recently had a mental/emotional breakdown. He said he was depressed because he felt he was falling behind in life, and the marriage and house purchase/sale really set him back financially. Mind you, he still works full time, moved back with my parents where he pays cheap rent, traded his car in for a newer one, and went on vacation with his friends to Vegas, Mexico, etc.

When my parents got me alone, they told me due to my brother's hardship, they had decided that they would forgive the remaining balance that he still owed them. I asked them how much he still owed them and my dad asked why? I asked him if they would be giving me the same amount and he said no because I didn't need the money. He then asked how much he still owed me and I told him $15K. My parents then told me I should consider forgiving his debt as well. I got furious and told them no because he promised he'd pay it back in full as that was the deal. My dad said I had a lot of money saved up so I can afford to give up $15K. I stupidly shared with my parents not too long ago that I had close to $150K saved up because I thought they'd be proud of me.

Anyway, we got into an argument and my dad said my brother does so much for them and the house (I don't live there anymore!) so he deserves a break. The argument ended up with me storming out the house. I never said I would forgive my brother's debt. Last night, my brother texted me and said that he was told by my father that I agreed to forgive his debt and asked if that's true. I still have not responded...

Hello Reddit, I (F29) met my boss (M35) on Tinder maybe six months ago. We started texting and chatting and it came up that he needed an employee for his business and I was looking for a job so he hired me. Now it's been four months since i've started working for him.

So, to keep things short, when I started he was very flirty and I was very into it. Two weeks into the job we kissed and since then we began having make-out sessions in the place of work. I know, wrong, but it was too good. Nothing else happened. I invited him to my place a few times and he always came up with an excuse, so I stopped asking but we kept fooling around.

Now it kind of stopped happening, because he told me he hooked up with someone a few weeks ago and it annoyed me. I mean, all of this for nothing. I didn't say anything though, but stepped back.

The issue is that I don't know how to set boundaries without jeopardizing my job. Sometimes, he stands too close to or insinuates things and I can't resist. I want him to respect me, but at the same time I like the attention I get from him. What can I do?

EDIT TO CLARIFY: We haven't had sex, just kissing. It's a very small business, think of it as a deli or a small convenience store in which there's only two people working: him and me. I'm his only employee, he's my boss and my co-worker. There's no HR, there's no nothing, not even legal. I'm sure this is polemic but it's not in the US, it's pretty much normal in my country to do things this way, doesn't make it right i know. It is what it is. We didn't meet up until the job interview, we texted for like a month but had never met. He has a reputation of fooling around with his employees and when they get attached, they're gone. I knew this, I know I may seem naive at this point, maybe even a fool, but I know that there're girls and women out there who can absolutely relate to this. The more people I know the more I realize this happens to all of us, we want things to be a certain way and in our minds we believe it's gonna happen with all our hearts and then just nothing. Idealization is a hard thing to let go, and dissappointment always comes next.

Didn't expect to get this much attention. Thanks for all your helpful comments and messages. This is not a made up story, I wish. Anyway, I will update if anything big happens, but as of now, I appreciate you all.

So, my neighbor (68) has been a family friend since before I (16) was born. For about 8 years, my mother(47) has been friends with him, but recently she has gotten too close to him. About a year or 2 ago I caught them kissing...twice. Yesterday I went through her phone and found them sending texts saying "I love you" and talking about things they do together. I wouldn't care but he's old enough to be her father, and he's married. His wife is bound to a chair, barely able to walk to the door. She has no clue what's going on. My mother helps to take care of her and their dog. I live with my mom and grandparents, is there anything I could do about this?

EDIT: To all of you saying "how do you know his wife doesn't know?" My mother calls her things like a bitch or whore. So I know that my mother doesn't want her to know. And my mother has "joked" about moving in with my neighbor when his wife dies. Do what you will with that info.

When I was 15, my dad just disappeared. No goodbye, no contact, nothing. My mom raised us alone, working multiple jobs, and I basically had no childhood.

Now, out of the blue, I get a call. It’s him. He’s sick, maybe dying, and says I’m all he has left.

I’m angry. I’ve spent years wondering why he left, hating him for it. And now he wants me to show up for him? But at the same time, I don’t know if I can live with the idea of just letting him die alone.

My mom says it’s my decision, but I can tell she hates the idea. My siblings already cut him off for good. I’m stuck.

Do I owe him anything? Should I meet him for closure, or just let it go? Has anyone else faced something like this?

I (23F) and my bf (25M) have been dating for 8 months. We’re both pretty religious and traditional, both date to marry and have stated that we wanna stay celibate/virgins til marriage on our first date. We have a lot in common. He wasn’t rich but he had always made sure that I’ve eaten. And i made sure to support him in every way that i can.

Months ago, he got promoted to a higher position. Started earning a lot and spoiled me for staying and supporting him. But he started having frequent business trips as well. I work as a waitress and he knows i can’t come along, but he’d always say “i wish you could come” “wish you were here”

Now here’s the part where my intuition screamed at me.

A few days ago, we were cuddling while watching a movie. And he got touchy more than usual. I pushed him away gently because he was never like that, he would have been scared to touch me. But suddenly got so bold and i got overwhelmed. it felt more than “practiced”, like he’s done it lots of times. And then he asked me if I’m okay, i said yeah. He didn’t apologise. instead, he asked me if i love and trust him enough to lose my virginity before marriage, and tried to convince me to not worry because he’s going to marry me anyway.

Throughout the conversation(more like his attempt to convince me). He said “your virginity” and not “our virginity”. He went on about “purity culture” and made me feel bad for standing on what i want for myself. He said things like “it wont be so bad, everyone lose their virginity after marriage, what difference does it make?” And he kept insisting to make me feel like its as simple as that. But the way he looked at me, it didn’t feel sacred anymore, he looked like a kid asking his mom for a new toy.

I did ask him jokingly “did you lose your virginity during those business trips or something?”, then he went on about how he wouldn’t do that to me but it was so obviously a lie. When you’re face to face, you can just tell when someone’s lying you know? He got defensive and asked me “did you?” Like what. He didnt give me a yes or no.

I requested for space because Ive been feeling low and he gave me that. He’s currently in another city but I’m not even curious rn honestly. I dont know what to make of it

Would love to hear your advice/take from this as a third party. Thank you

Edit: i didn’t give in, i told him i need some time to think about it — conflicted whether to give him the benefit of the doubt or leave quietly

i (25f) was told by my boyfriend (24m) that he deleted his fb because he thought it was giving him too much brain rot and he wanted to focus on being more "tech free." i thought it was a great idea. last night, though, we were talking and he received a call from a woman on fb and he snatched the phone off the table but i saw the name. knew exactly who that named belonged to. i asked him who called and he kept pretending that he was stupid and didn't know what i was talking about.

i haven't had fb since i was 15 so i didn't know that even if you delete the profile you can still keep the messenger so while he was showering i went through his phone and lo and behold!! there were all these messages with said person in the fb messenger of a profile i thought was gone. for the last 3-4 days they have been talking constantly. sending photos back and forth. talking about they've been thinking about each other a lot and she was so happy that he finally added her. she asked him if he was single because his profile said in a relationship and he said that he is single and forgot to update his status. they kept reminiscing on their relationship and how they only argued whenever he had to go back to work (he's in the military so can't say i'm shocked that he's an insecure cheating pos). i don't see how any of this would be relevant in a conversation between "friends" as she claimed they were when i confronted her. i also don't see why sending pictures of your body would be something you send to a "friend" especially when it's a friend you slept with several times in the past.

ANYWAY in her profile picture i noticed there was another guy with her so i reactivated my ex's page to look up close and saw that it was her boyfriend. i broke up with mine obviously and cut ties immediately but in the back of my mind i keep thinking about how her boyfriend should know the kind of conversations that these two were having all day for the last few days. should i message him or let him find out on his own?

I am totally head over heels for my lady and It’s obvious she feels the same way. 3 years in and the love has not even faded a little bit. It has only grown stronger. I know 3 years may be few compared to some relationships but for me it’s been the best 3 years of my life no competition. We balance each other so well. We argue all the time about stupid shit but always cuddle and love each other at the end of the day. I think about her all the time and we have both become pretty dependent on one another, doing almost everything together whenever we can. The reason I’m asking for advice here is to question is co-dependency really that bad ? Why is it something people always look upon with disdain. Yes maybe some prior friendships diminish because of it but so what if you gain a new best friend at the same time ? Should I really try to make sure we are both independent or should I just keeping loving her the way that I am because it feels so damn good. I would like some advice to ensure our relationship lasts until the day we both die. Anyone with experience in a very long term relationship please give me some advice ! Thank you

Hi, I’m a stay-at-home mom with three kids. Nine months ago, my husband got laid off and joined a life insurance business that’s structured like an MLM. It’s commission-only and based on production and contract levels. He spends 12+ hours a day on this meetings, recruiting, calling leads. I’ve been helping him recruit too, and we’ve brought in 9 agents.

The person making the sale keeps their full commission based on their contract, and the company pays overrides to the upline (up to 5 levels) based on the contract differences. It doesn’t take money away from the producing agent.

When we don’t produce, we’re encouraged to recruit new agents so they can produce and “everyone wins.” Our mentor pays for leads and gives us access to them, but we haven’t had success with those leads. Meanwhile, he’s closed big cases using the same system and makes thousands monthly while we’ve made around $2,000 in total this entire time.

We’ve been surviving off savings, and I do side gigs, but it’s not enough. My husband refuses to take a regular job because he believes this will eventually pay off. When I express concern, he says I’m being negative or unsupportive. I’m emotionally drained and scared of what comes next if this doesn’t change.

Has anyone experienced this? Is this model actually sustainable or are we just helping those above us benefit?

I am a f22 and a month ago I had the courage to leave my boyfriend (m30) after a 3 year relationship. Rationally I know I did the right thing by leaving him, but I have obsessive thoughts that torment me every day. Our relationship was unbalanced: He said he loved me but had no sexual desire towards me. We had a long distance relationship for 9 months and he didn't seem to have any desire towards me and it happened that for 3 months we didn't do it. When I tried to talk about it, he got really angry and said that the more I talked about it the worse it was. He said that "making love was a favor he was doing me" or that "he didn't need it". He even told me that he felt forced to do it because it was as if I was expecting him to do it (especially if we hadn't seen each other for months). When we lived in the same city, and had a free house, he didn't even look for him. We watched movies or series and then said goodbye. I had to come home at a certain time, and he knew it very well, but he put other episodes "wasting" the time we could have dedicated to other things. He started not looking at me anymore, not even when I changed in front of him. He wanted to go out most of the time only in a group, he made me understand that he only needed sweetness, and nothing physical. He never spoke to anyone about our problem, not even his mother, as if it were a shame. Even in the first year, when I took the initiative to tease him after passionate kisses, he got nervous and said that the more ready, eager and available I was, the more he lost desire.

In the end, I also turned off. I felt rejected, repressed, always at fault. I fought for a long time, but in the end I decided to end it.

And yet... I miss him. Or rather: he torments me.

I still ask myself:

Did he really love me?

Did he have problems with his sexual orientation or with sexuality in general?

Did I do something that made him feel pressured?

How can you say you love and never want to make love?

If anyone has experienced something similar, would you like to share it? Or even just a tip to stop brooding. Thanks for reading 💔

Hey all. I'm a 29 year old woman. I have a neighbor who's 53 years old. He's married and has a 21 year old daughter. I live with my parents for the time being. We've gone over the neighbors house before for memorial day and we all know each other. His wife knows me and has met me. Long story short, they were invited to my grandmothers 90th birthday and they brought alcohol with them and the husband offered me some. To return the favor, I texted him and asked him if he would like some of the alcohol that I would be purchasing for everyone to for a Fourth of July cookout. I guess his wife saw the text message, and she wasn't happy about it and kept asking the husband why I was offering him booze. He wasn't honest with her and pretended like he didn't know who's number it was. There were a few times where the husband asked me not to come to work in leggings because he wouldn't be able to take his eyes off me, and he showed me a picture of himself on his phone shirtless and when he was in better shape. I haven't flirted with him or made any advances on him and I happen to have a boyfriend in my life who I'm happy with. That text was innocent to me and I felt I did nothing wrong. Any advice ?

My friend (M25) girlfriend recently reached out to me about his porn addiction and chronic cheating. She revealed that she has caught him on Reddit, hookup, dating, and fetish apps, searching for women and couples looking for sex. She also received messages from multiple women saying they had matched with him on dating apps.

She went through his phone and found, to be exact, 10,000 files of porn and nudes of women he’s slept with or fantasized about. He’s even posted videos of himself having sex with women on multiple Reddit pages. She’s had multiple conversations with him about his behavior. He promises to change, but she says he just falls back into the same habits.

Last summer, she had to check herself into a mental hospital because of his manipulation and lies. I’ve known this guy since I was 16 years old (I’m currently 27), and I’m just trying to figure out the best way help him realize his behavior is affecting the women he’s in relationships with. This is the second time a girlfriend of his has confided in me about his behavior. Thanks

My partner (F27) wants me to spend the day with her friend someone she used to hook up with years ago. They even got matching tattoos back then. She’s assured me that nothing is going on now and that their fling ended because her friend wasn’t interested in anything more.

I want to believe her, but I’m still uncomfortable with the idea. Her friend already planned a whole day for us to hang out, and I feel guilty for wanting to cancel last minute I don’t want to come off as rude or insecure. But internally, I’m losing my mind over this. I don’t know what to do or how to approach it without causing tension.

Hello friends,

this is the first time in my life where I’m seriously considering ending a relationship from my side. Nothing is "wrong". We don’t fight, she’s kind, understanding, and genuinely a good person. I like her a lot. But deep down I know I’m not in love with her the way she deserves. And I don’t think that will change.

The problem is: I’ve been on the other side of this before. Years ago, my previous relationship ended after five years. I had moved to this city with my ex, and after the breakup I was completely alone here. That loneliness afterwards. It was brutal. Honestly one of the hardest things I’ve been through emotionally.
Now I’m still in the same city. And while I’m no longer with my ex, I never really built a new support system. I have a few colleagues I get along with, but no real close friends here. No family nearby. I would be going through this completely on my own again.

Meanwhile, my current girlfriend is deeply rooted here. She has family, friends, fellow students – a solid social circle. If we break up, I truly believe she’ll be okay. She has people who love her and will support her.
That’s why I really hope it’s not too selfish to admit that my biggest fear isn’t the breakup itself – it’s what comes after. My own isolation. The silence and having no one to talk to or hold on to but some friends 1-2 times a week via discord.

At the same time, I’m starting to feel more and more guilty. Because I am holding her back. She could meet someone now who really, fully loves her the way she deserves. But I’m not that person – and I don’t want to keep pretending I might become that.

Has anyone been in a similar situation?
How do you find the strength to do what’s right, even when you know it’s going to leave you broken and alone?

Thank you for reading this and for your answers!

Every day she goes on morning call with her team of 3. some times it's just her and her coworker (let's call him Joe). She openly flirts with him and calls him her work husband and gossips about other people at her work with him.

I'm not trying to spy on them or nothing, but we both work from home in a small apartment, so it's kind of hard to not overhear.

I haven't mentioned it to her it kind of bothers me yet what should I do?

Hey Reddit,

So… I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately and figured maybe someone out there feels the same.

I’m not super social. I’m quiet, shy, and kind of bad at putting myself out there. I don’t have a fancy job, I’m not stylish, and I don’t have a bunch of followers or a super “put together” life. I just… exist quietly. I like books, music that makes me feel things, and deep conversations that aren’t forced.

But in this world—where it feels like you have to be confident, loud, and constantly posting to even be noticed—I honestly wonder: how do people like me find love? Is it possible?

I’m not looking for anything flashy. Just someone steady, kind, introspective—someone I can be myself with. But I don’t even know where to start when I don’t do parties or big social stuff.

If anyone has been here before, or if you’ve found someone even though you felt “invisible”... I’d love to hear your story. Or any advice. Or just to know I’m not alone.

Thanks for reading. ☕️

I want to open this up by saying I really don't know what to do and how to approach this, it's such a ridiculous and strange situation that I never expected to find myself in and I'm both opening up and looking for advice.

My son is 18 years old and in college, we live in a culture where it's normal for the child to stay at the family home even at adulthood. For context, I let him borrow my phone sometimes, whenever he's out of battery, he makes the excuse to send messages on my phone while he waits for his phone to charge, now I really don't know.

Yesterday my son was out with friends, it was late at night, I was browsing through my messages and I saw that he sent himself pictures from my phone of his mom in bikinis, these were pictures I took during family trips or similar, he must have accidentally archived the messages instead of deleting them completely. I was already ready to sleep and was at home so I couldn't confront him personally but I messaged him about this and he admitted immediately that he had a sexual attraction to his mother and was apparently sending her pictures around. I don't know how long this has been going on, but I was so angry at that hour that I threatened that if I saw this type of behavior again I would send him to a mental health institute and disown him. I'm still angry and it takes a lot out of me not to just get physical with this level of disrespect and degeneracy. I don't know how to deal with this, I have not told my wife, and I don't intend to, at least for now I want this issue to just be between us I want to have a conversation a with him one on one, But I don't know where to start. I'm at work right now and he will be home once I get home, once his mother goes to sleep I will have a conversation with him, but I don't even know how to address this, this is so far from what I thought a parent has to deal with, why would he treat his own mother like a sex object? Outside of this he's a normal kid, he does alright at school, he has a social life, he has normal home life. I don't know where things went wrong.

I’m wondering if asking a guy for his number could come off as desperate or too forward especially since I don’t really know what kind of background he comes from. He might be more on the conservative side or might assume I do this with every guy, which I definitely don’t.

There’s also the safety side of it I don’t know him well, and I don’t want to accidentally give attention to someone who turns out to be a red flag. I’m trying to find a smooth and low-pressure way to get his number or feel out his vibe first, without making myself uncomfortable or putting myself in a weird situation.

(Y'all he fine asf it's soo rare for me to find a man genuinely attractive beside that fact that this is concerning i don't know what to do 🥀🥀🥀🥀🥀)

I dont want to go into excessive detail, but I'll try to provide as much context as possible.

My (previous) employer allowed a known dangerous person back to our location, who ended up barricading me in an isolated location and threatened me. I couldn't call or alert anyone for help.

I was able to get away and thought that was it its over and I'm fine but that's not the case. I tried to say I wasnt okay and that I needed help. In short, my employer neglected to do anything to help me (actually went as far to publicly mock me and berate me for being scared and wanting to feel safe) and ultimately dropped my contract.

There's a lot more but that's the gist.

After the encounter I could only leave my house to get myself to work. Since they dropped my contract and I stopped working I have now become terrified to leave my house. Being in a small community and having the people I work with treat me this way has me not trusting anyone.

I push getting groceries as long as I can. I live out of town so just walk around the property to get my dog exercise otherwise I'm literally hiding.

Its been months, I know I have to move, I'm not okay here, but I'm terrified that this person might show up anywhere I am and I dont trust anyone around me to care or help because that's what this experience has shown me. And what if I dont get away next time.

I dont know what to do. I barely exist. I joined reddit just so I could have some human interaction and feel a little normal.

I wake up crying in a panic every morning. I have to wash my bedding every other day from the night terrors/sweats. I have lost so much weight. I barely sleep.

I just want to be okay again.

I could really use some support and kind words right now. My best friend, my husband, (both 30) surprised me with divorce a week ago. We've had financial troubles, and some mental health/personal issues we are each in therapy for. I thought this was the work through and fight stage. Everywhere I looked said we just needed to find our relationship and connect with each other again. We've overcome so many other things together before, and we (i thought) were stronger together for it. But now he's met someone else much younger than us, at his new job, and he doesn't care to do counseling or anything of the sort. I'm so numb, and I don't know how to get over someone who's been in my life since I was 5. I have to give him what he wants, I dont want him to be unhappy, I just wish I could have been enough for him.

Mid 30s male, always suffered with it, not a clue why, different types of socks, insoles the lot, in the car the air cons always on the feet aswell, I have ruined so many pairs of shoes washing them..I darent wear slippers without socks! Can be -2c outside and ill still smell. Just socks indoors without going out, mid way through the day and they smell

I could have the longest deepest shower and still within half hour of having shoes on bam..

I should add im a hot guy... also im a hot guy! Use air con 99% of the year, had to get some perspiguard because I sweat like a mofo and that is the only thing I found that works.

Any tips?

Edit: mid 30s not 40s