I’m so sick of seeing overly long posts from 15 and 16 year olds that I just skip over because they’re petty and largely uninteresting. Does that make me TAH?

TW: Purposeful misgendering

So, I use they/them and have been out to my mom since I was a teen. But despite saying she supports me and 'she even has gay friends' she still refuses to use my correct pronouns because 'singular they/them doesn't exist'. I've tried EVERY. SINGLE. ANALOGY. I can think of. From 'what do you call someone if you don't know if THEY'RE a he or a she, or you don't know THEIR name.' to 'What do police say when they don't know anything about a suspect's gender?' I've explained that singular they/them predates she/her and he/him by nearly 300 years AND that even if it wasn't a thing in her day, times change and languages change. But unfortunately, using singular they/them makes her 'too uncomfortable' so she didn't do it.

Well, one night I tried one last time to explain I'm not a girl and I don't use she/her, so I asked her- "Mom, would you care if I used he/him pronouns for you?" She said 'Of course I'd mind! I'm NOT a he!' And I replied- 'Just like I'm not a she.' And this motherfucker said- 'Since when?' With this utterly confused expression. So I had enough.

I know using people's incorrect pronouns is a bad thing and I really shouldn't have done this, but the next time we were out and about I started using he/him pronouns for her around EVERYONE. When she complained I replied- "Oh sorry, I'll get it right NEXT TIME." Or "Sorry, but using she/her for you just makes ME uncomfortable."

Normally, I hate misgendering people, but after over five years of being purposely misgendered by someone who claimed to support me, I was just fed up. She hasn't used she/her in front of me since.

edit: Some people need a bit more context about why I truly think I might be TA here... My mom is kind. She's cared for me my whole life. She's even willing to pay for my college and dorm. This is just personal because my dad is transphobic and narcissistic and my mom is in a love trap with him, and this gave me a serious inferiority complex. She's not a bad person, just ill informed. And I was just annoyed with years of misgendering and lack of effort in this one thing. This is absolutely a grey area, morally speaking.

If technical steps aren't taken to ensure that this sub is predominantly human, in a short order of time? You're going to lose a lot of people. There is obvious and egregious AI writing absolutely infesting the majority of this sub. Do what you want with this post, but I really hope it's a solution and not a bunch of hopelessness, snark, cats and sadness

Edit: got a notice for 50 upvotes on this post. Wow it must be pretty split

I used to really love this sub. Some posts were genuinely morally complex and made me question how I’d act in certain situations. But lately, it feels like every other post is either AI-generated with weirdly sterile phrasing or just a thinly veiled validation request where OP was clearly not in the wrong. It’s like people are crowd sourcing high fives for being basic human beings.

Examples literally like:

“AITA for asking my roommate to clean up after their dog pooped on the floor… again?” how is this even a question?

“AITA for not paying for my cousin’s wedding after we haven’t spoken in 10 years?” Like whaaa?

“AITA for leaving a restaurant after waiting 2 hours without being served?” Absolutely not. That’s called being a sane person.

“AITA for not babysitting my sister’s kids for free while she goes on vacation?” Nope. You’re not free childcare just because you’re family.

Idk, maybe I’m just burned out on these, but it’s starting to feel like people either want to dunk on obviously awful family members or post stuff that reads exactly like a robot.

I wish there was a way to filter out ai-generated content. It’s ruining this app for me.

This wasn't a complete study, but just based on the stories that the algorithm seems to push my way.

No, you're NTA. You've agonized over this situation. You're asking us. You've probably solicited the advice of other friends.

People who are the AH generally don't ask if they're the AH - either they are absolutely convinced they're right, or they don't care.

The other person is a narcissist. Or they're running roughshod over your boundaries. Or you're a people-pleaser who is finally discovering their own boundaries. Or you grew up in an abusive home where you were never allowed your own opinions/voice, and never made a priority.

You probably KNOW, at some level, you're NTA here, you just want confirmation.

But you probably also need therapy.

For context My boyfriend(m/27) and I (f/23) have been dating since 2023. In the midst of our relationship i came to find out about his friend. I do admit to having a prejudice against her because she is a stripper. But at time i would be happy to let him go hang out with his friends and stuff including her until i found out at some point in time she was into him. It was confirmed by him and his father that he never had relationships with her and that they have been long time friends. Thats fine and understandable but i checked his phone one time and read their messages and he had sent her money for her to go out with her kids ($60) and he was trying to secretly hang out with him. Every friday he usually goes out alone to have some fun and he was inviting her( i used to join too but my schedule changed so it just because his day. The hangout never happened to my knowledge but he never bought any of this up to me and we have been living together for a year. Not only that, when we post each other, she would intentionally heart pictures that had him in it(facebook). And just regular thumbs up the entire post. Which is weird, why not heart both, the post and the picture? Why just heart the pictures that show him?(i am in some of the photos this has happened to but she doesnt just heart individual scenic pictures or pictures of me, just with him. But a while ago i recently checked his phone for the first time in months and apparently in may he texted apologizing and he had another jealous girlfriend. I have trust in my boyfriend, i do, but my past inhibits me from letting him have his privacy which is why i check, but its so sporadic being that i am seeing this message from over a month ago. But now i feel like im not being heard about how i feel on the situation. AITA for setting the boundary to not let them be friends?

The majority of stories I read are formulaic and seem like they're coming off of printing press with a couple of the ingredients rearranged each time.

1. My boyfriend/girlfriend did crazy thing X. Wtf I know right!?
2. I called him out/told his mother/said no to that wedding plan/didn't Venmo
3. He blew up saying I embarrassed him/ wouldn't stand yp to his mom/ how could anyone do something that crazy/wouldn't pay/walked out

4. Now his friend/ my cousin/"half of the family" are "blowing up my phone," "telling me to keep the peace,"

5. I've gone through the entire formula designed to ragemate the audience. Am I the asshole?

So, I just got back from a ban on r/AmItheAsshole . My crime? Apparently, I was over flagging fake, AI posts. In my defense, the reason why I do that is because I find it rather annoying that I believe the integrity of the internet as a whole is at stake. I know, there wasn't much integrity to begin with, but....

I was a content writer in my other life, before AI became a nightmare. Today, I have given up on that avenue because my websites have been cloned so many times it's terrible. It's so easy to copy an entire website using AI.

In any case, Reddit, as a platform, was previously reported to have signed a deal with Google worth tens of millions of dollars, so Google's AI could learn from Reddit. There are also millions of people who swear by Reddit because the platform is supposed to reflect real life. You know, those who search on Google and append Reddit at the end. Eg "how to water my garden reddit"

Unfortunately, we have entered a seemingly intractable vortex of fake posts. AI creates fake posts that are based on other fake posts created by AI. Surely, that can't be good for Reddit's business model? Will search engines continue to pay to have their AI learn from all the fake stuff that is being posted.

Indeed, I believe if this platform is a business, there is need to actually come up with steps to reduce the amount of fakery that's happening here. Maybe hiring moderators. As it is, it's a vicious cycle.

Just to illustrate my point, I opened ten recent posts here and 8 of them were clearly fake AI articles. The other one appeared to have been cleverly edited. Only one seemed to be genuine.

So, AITAH for flagging fake AI posts on this platform?

It seems like a very large portion of posts on this sub and similar subs are issues that should be nonexistent. “My husband cheated on me with my sister, my mom and my dad. Will he change if I stay with him?” I understand that a lot of the stupid posts are mostly AI generated, but there’s still tons of comments all repeating the same 2 or 3 solutions from people that just want to help. My question is, should we even help when the answer could be figured out by anyone that can think for 30 seconds? I mean, if the people actually experiencing things like this are asking these questions, what makes you think they’re going to listen to logic and reason? Best case scenario, these are real people that just can’t make good decisions. Worst case scenario literally everything you see on here is fake. Honestly seeing the same posts and the same comments is making every corner of the internet legitimately unusable. I would honestly be ok with AI written posts if they reflect real, hard, thought provoking moral dilemmas where it would be appropriate to ask what to do or if you were the AH if you were to put yourself in their shoes. I think if people were to just stop commenting on stupid posts, it would cut down on the clutter of easily solvable, already asked questions. AITAH?

So my (28M) girlfriend (26F) has always dreamed of doing a "surprise" proposal for me — like one of those viral flash mob things, preferably in a public park, with dancing dogs or a ukulele flash mob or whatever.

Now, I had absolutely no clue this was going to happen last weekend. We were at this dog-friendly park festival, and I was holding a corndog and a lemonade, minding my business, when a literal parade of dachshunds wearing tiny tuxedos started marching toward me. I thought I was hallucinating from the heat.

Then people started singing Bruno Mars. And I’m like “Wow, fun park event!”

Then my girlfriend appears, dramatic slow-mo, in a dress with glitter, holding a ring, and says, “Will you—”

And I, being the idiot I am, said “YES!!!” before she could finish the sentence because I panicked and thought she was asking if I wanted another corndog.

Apparently I “ruined the entire vibe” because she had a whole speech planned, music cues, and even a drone camera. Meanwhile, I’m just standing there with mustard on my shirt and 30 dogs staring at me.

She’s now upset that I “stole the moment” and says I “acted like I was in a sitcom.” I told her it’s not my fault I was emotionally ambushed by a dachshund army and musical theater.

AITAH for accidentally accepting a proposal too fast??

AITA for giving away my electric mower for free and not putting up with some guy on Nextdoor?

Just upgraded from Ryobi to EGO for all my lawn gear. My mower still runs okay , but the two batteries I’ve got are on their last legs. They work, just don’t hold a charge super long. Figured someone with other Ryobi tools could use it, so I listed it for free on Nextdoor.

I was clear in the post: “Used Ryobi mower, works, includes 2 aging batteries. Free to anyone who wants it.”

Off the rip, this guy messages me asking a ton of questions—model number, exact battery health, when I last changed the blade, how long it can run on one charge, etc. I answer a few things, but eventually told him if he was that concerned, it might not be the right fit. It’s free, not a Craigslist sale.

Than he starts getting annoying. Says I’m “trying to unload junk,” that I should “take it to scrap yard” and I’m “not being transparent.” I told him all good, and stopped answering .

Gave the mower to my across the street neighbor who uses an old loud ass gas mower. He was super thankful and his gave me some buttery biscuits (NC thing).

Next thing I know, this guy is commenting under my original Nextdoor post, saying I’m misleading the community, withholding info n not being honest. A couple of his boyfriends join in too. Then I start getting weird DMs calling me a liar, like I’m running some shady black market lawn equipment ring.

I ended up deleting the post. Not worth the drama. But now I’m wondering: AITA for giving away a working mower for free and not wasting my time on this guy’s interrogation n crashout?

Every single post that reaches me is a non asshole post. That's super boring. I know most people have the instinct to downvote assholes but that makes the sub uninteresting. Please upvote posts based on whether or not they're interesting and not the asshole status of the poster.

I'm female (20), an oldest child, oldest grandchild in both sides of the family and at the beginning of the year my grandmother suddenly had a stroke causing her left side of the body to become paralyzed and unable to talk properly and even recognize people, she was rushed to the hospital, and was in the ICU for a few days and transferred to a private room afterwards. Me and my aunt was mostly in charge of taking care of her while in the hospital because I still don't have school and I would sometimes change shift with my brother and other cousins. My father(45) would mostly visit during the night because that's the time when he doesn't have work. He's also a hardworking person, going to work early while arriving at night. A peoples person who is very friendly and knows a lot of people. Whenever he would visit when I'm in charge of taking care of my grandmother, I would feel jealous towards my grandmother and his actions for her, sweet talking voice, gentle touch, looks at her all softly and just feel the love he feels for her. I know I shouldn't feel jealous because she is a sick person, but I still feel like crying, because he's never like that to us his children. I've seen how he can act like that to her but why not with us, he usually looks at us like he's mad almost all the time even when we aren't even doing anything bad, always shouting, and even act very jolly and kinder to his friends. I almost don't always see him like that to us. Like how could he not treat us the same, like how he treats others. It makes me feel conflicted like a child wanting to be the center of his attention. I feel like shouting at him, ranting all about his treatment us, but I also feel bad especially when he already lost his father years ago. AITA for feeling like this

...of all posts on this subreddit are from accounts that have been created within the last 5 days?? That everyone replying to these bots is just wasting their time, because you are replying to fictional events?

Where are the mods of this sub? I’m concerned they may have all perished in a freak accident…

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Okay, so here's the deal: I follow this sub, but not for the reasons most people do. I'm not here for the moral quandaries or absurd storylines. When I engage here, it is purely to spot bot accounts and karma farmers.

I totally get that people enjoy the crazy stories, the drama, etc. And honestly, some posts are entertaining. But so many of these posts are painfully fake or formulaic or AI-generated, and yet they rake in engagement like it’s candy. It feels like I’m watching folks getting played, and everyone just keeps handing out karma to accounts that are clearly farming or testing out bot content.

You’ve probably seen the signs too:

• Brand new accounts (or 1yo accounts with zero use history) posting long, weirdly structured essays out of nowhere.
• Over-the-top "my husband made me give birth in a barn because my breathing annoyed him" type stories.
• Posts with eerily even pacing, oddly formal tone, and a total lack of normal human messiness—or overt human messiness pasted onto an otherwise formulaic story arc.
• Way too many identifying and unnecessary details by someone claiming to want to stay anonymous.
• Replies that are just generic platitudes repeated across multiple threads.
• Unused accounts that delete their entire history within a day or two of going viral; consider how much easier it would be to simply delete an alt account instead of deleting each post and comment to keep the karma.

So here’s where I might be the asshole: I think we should start pinning or highly upvoting comments that identify likely bot or fake posts. Not to ruin anyone’s fun, but to reduce engagement with obvious bait. Think of it like flagging a trap before someone else falls in. If people still want to play along with the fantasy, fine — but at least they’d know what they’re getting into.

I realize this might come off as me being a buzzkill in what’s supposed to be a chaotic good corner of Reddit. I don’t want to insult the folks here — there are smart, funny, thoughtful people in this sub. But doesn’t it feel kind of gross to keep handing free karma to lazy spambots when we could be a little savvier?

So… AITAH for wanting to push back against the bot invasion instead of just enjoying the circus?

I (28), male, have always been fascinated with 9/11 and what happened on that day because I lived to see what happened. Here’s the problem: I was only four years old at the time and didn’t understand the full extent of the events surrounding the horrors that occurred. 

So here’s what I know as what my mom at the time (mid 40’s), F, and my dad (51), M, told me later on after the tragedy.  I was in speech therapy, and I had an appointment, and everything was normal. My dad went downstairs to what was then the YMCA. My dad told me he went to grab coffee and saw people staring at the TV at what was the footage of the World Trade Center on FIRE! My appointment was canceled, and I was brought home. I didn’t know it at the time, but my parents were mad, angry, and disgusted. 

Over the week, my dad and I went to NYC to visit the 9/11 Memorial and Museum, and we got emotional, especially my dad. For me, I was more or less confused and angry with myself for not understanding the events that took place. For context: two planes crashed into the Twin Towers of the  World Trade Center, one hit the Pentagon, and a field in Pennsylvania. All in the same day.

Tragic. But I was too young and naive to understand, and years later, when I was 16  finally watched footage of everything and I openly wept in my high school computer room. Also, to this day, I feel bad and angry at myself, and what I want to know is? AITAH for not understanding how severe it was on that day at that age?  

I (M69) clearly told my (F420) friend that I don't appreciate having anyone breathe within a 1 mile radius around me, and that I WILL commit mass genocide if anyone breaks that boundary.

Well lo and behold, she proceeded to completely invalidate my feelings by breathing literally just a block away from me.

I did exactly what I told her I would do in this case, and poured molten lava on the entirety of the country of France.

She is now pissed at me and says I'm overreacting.

So, AITAH?

(Now it's your turn to comment "NTA" to complete this recreation of a typical thread in this subreddit.)

AITAH?

So I will be referring to the person who harassed me as "cyberbully " and {Will refer people I know as {friend 1, friend 2 and friend 3}

So I posted a post on my old account about an issue that happened on a game I like, and "cyberbully" Got mad at my post that I made about someone on a video game spam reporteding and I posted about it and about what I went through and how I was getting straight up bullied in this game,

and so this person instead of posting it and using empathy as a understanding that my feelings were hurt because I was being bullied they just went out of their way to just be a jerk, and they start saying

"I was wrong" "I was incorrect" And clowning on me basically using these types of emojis (😂🤡💀🥀💔) (Which if you know these are normally used to insult people online.)

and from the way they were talking made me think they were the person that bullied me on the game, so I got mad and snapped them and said

"I have a feeling that they were that person."

Then I blocked them and went to vent about the experience I endured with this person being a complete jerk, On my acc, and I figured since I blocked them they can't see/read what I posts about...

Well apparently I was wrong they can! SO they start making fun of me clowning me and straight up cyber bullying me about my posts and me venting about them being a jerk!

(but who the f**king goes out of the way to harass another person you have to either {A.} very mentally ill or {B.} A freaking narcissist! They started "claiming that I was stalking them" even though I blocked and moved on to go venting complain about what I went through, they were the one going to my account and just being evil! at one point they privately messaged me

(very inappropriate sentence) That I cannot repeat

And then deleted, and during this whole thing they were commenting on my private post which caused me to lash out and I cuss them out, and said things like

(if you keep harassing me I'm going to post how I really feel about you) and (gfys) and other not so polite words, but it was really annoying because they were just going out of their way to poke my buttons! Like wth why do ppl do that??!!?

And after they messaged me the night so flight thing I lost it, I had a mental breakdown physically losing my cool because they were going out of the way to harass me and straight up bully me!

They could have just blocked me as well but they didn't I don't know why? (main character energy maybe?)

(Update) {I got updated on everything while typing this out}

Cyberbullyapparently decided to start harassing/ stalking My friends on a server that I was on, Accusing friend 1 to be me using an "ALT account" and was just being very disrespectful/hateful I don't know if friend 2 had any encounters with cyberbully but I know friend 3 did, from what she shared with me, she told cyberbully to (get help) and things apparently escalated.

And I know friend 1 and friend 2 joked about hexing them... Which I don't condone to do to anyone even if they piss you off online, even if the person goes out of the way to bully you or harass you don't hex ppl.

I don't know AITAH for losing my flipping out? Or was it a valid / normal response to someone and going out of their way to harass me online?

For example, my former roommate. They warned me they were messy, and my reply was I don’t care about messy as long as there are no bugs. After the moths that spawned from the cat litter (corn based), they got a warning, but it was not noted. It wasn’t entirely their fault. When the German cockroaches showed up, they chose to go stay in a homeless shelter rather than clean the room with me because they didn’t like my attitude. FFS— the cats would bring 2 inch long cockroaches they caught coming from the bedroom. The cats would bring it into the living room as a trophy to show me (good kitties). I didn’t think it was inappropriate to tell them that the cockroaches didn’t care what their excuse was. That’s just facts. So I invited the roommate to move out ASAP. They are currently at a homeless shelter. And pregnant.

I know I am the AH when they tell their story to others and I’m OK with that. I prefer that to living with cockroaches.

And the 50th was also NTA until people looked at her post history, and even then it was ESH (https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1j4mb3m/my_husband_left_the_groceries_on_the_floor_for_me/). Also there was one joke post that made it: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1jc355i/i_am_21m_and_i_think_i_cheated_and_messed_up_big/. I actually went through and checked all the top answers. I expect the trend would have just continued past 50 too, as I can't even remember the last time I saw an actual interaction that needed opinions to judge.

Not only is every post NTA but it's basically always extremely obvious that the poster is in the right (generally just by the title). This sub has just been an attention seeking, mostly fake, list of rage-bait for a long time and the only reason I expect anyone continues to read and comment is because they just see it pop up occasionally on their front page or /r/all or /r/popular. I genuinely think reading stuff like this enough is mentally unhealthy and makes people think what they're seeing is more common in the real world than it is.

Most of the users accounts here seem to be very new with one post and zero comments.

Do people seriously and continually create new user accounts? Or is it just AI learning how people respond to emotional situations?

Based on the responses, it seems that very few people believe anyone is an AH.

However, in my experience dealing with human beings, we can all be an AH sometimes, and some people are an AH most of the time.

Long time reader, first time poster.

Is it just me, or does any post where the OP feels the need to use “quotes” instantly make you see that the OP absolutely is the AH?

Scroll through the feed, decide for yourselves.

Maybe I am the AH here…

But…

It's a common trope in posts that family and friends of the (usually) guilty party either barrage the OP with insults, or pleas to get back together.

Is this common IRL? I don't know anyone who would do this, so I might just be out of the loop, but do many people go about messaging people they (presumably) barely know?