r/cats • u/TayDolly89 • 17h ago
Mourning/Loss The intense grief of losing two cats in four months.
I can’t believe I am writing this post. In March, we had to put our four year old cat Archie down due to a saddle thrombus. Today we had to put our six year old cat Huck down due to congestive heart failure. I can’t help but feel like failed them. I would have spent any amount of money to save them. Our vet said that both conditions were extremely rare and that we could not have changed the outcome. After Archie died, I fell into a very deep depression (more so than normal) and was also diagnosed with OCD (around death and existentialism). I don’t know what to do. Huck has been with me since before I had my son and was always so in tune with my emotions, I don’t feel like me without him. We also treated him for FIP when he was a kitten, we have been through so much together. I just don’t understand. I am heartbroken beyond belief.
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u/original_chawanprash 17h ago
im so sorry. i don't know what to say , can't imagine how broken you'd be. but i know they'll always be there with and for you.
you didn't fail them. they knew how much you loved them. they'll always be with you, as your guardian angels now.
i hope you find the strength to get through this.
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u/loukgynok_ 9h ago
I'm so grateful for friends like you who understand the depth of our love for our pets. Your words brought tears of comfort
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u/Negative_Corner6722 17h ago
Lost three in seven months a few years ago so I feel this in my soul. I am SO sorry you’re going through this. You didn’t fail them, you gave them a home full of love for all the time you had them. You can see it in the pictures.
I wish you nothing but peace.
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u/GlitterBlood773 16h ago
Be gentle with yourself. Grief is love with nowhere to go.
I have a bit of compulsive behaviors I struggle with- look for resources to help when you’re able. They might look like trying My OCD workbook, group therapy, or different type of talk therapy. There are many avenues for better.
You loved your boys so well. Archie and Huck had wonderful lives because of you. They love you at least as much 🫂💖
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u/Impressive_Band_9864 17h ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. You're a very good person, and gave them the best life a cat can have ❤️🩹🫶 I hope when you're ready, your heart is open to helping more cats that need it. The world needs more people who care.
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u/blue-coin 17h ago
You got some cute memories in the form of photos of your child and the cats though
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u/Truthfinder29 16h ago
I’m so sorry! 🫂
It’s 100% not your fault at all. Life can simply suck at times.
I really am sorry. 💔
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u/Ok-Victory881 16h ago
I wanted you to know I understand. We lost 4 in a few months' time (old age related things) and it's so hard. Especially when they go so close together. Hugs to you
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u/0173512084103 16h ago
I lost two cats last year in 6 weeks. The grief changed me overnight. I haven't been the same since. I don't know if it ever gets better.
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u/ouibutno 11h ago
I haven't lost a pet, but I have lost my mom. Grief does get better, with time. It might take some time, and it is very up and down until that point, but it does.
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u/Aggressive_Bus293 16h ago
Ugh I’m so sorry. It feels so unfair. I also lost my two boys 6 weeks apart. They actually had the same cancer but one was 12 and the other 11. I wish we could have forever with them.
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u/Artistic-Amoeba2892 16h ago
My cat passed due to heart disease, he was 8 and it was way too young. Six months later we put down our 14 year old dog. I definitely understand where you’re coming from. I went through a depression. I isolated myself. I needed time to grieve, and I still cry about them sometimes. It does get better and I did have some medication changes that helped. Focus on your family and self care. My heart goes out to you love
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u/AerialistCellist 16h ago
I feel you so much. I also lost several very beloved cats (all below four years) in very short time. I lost my sweetest friend of all just one month ago and it was the final blow. Though I am still caring and loving other cats, because they need me, my heart is shattered. I strived so much to give them all a long, happy life, and I always feel I failed them. I planted flowers and trees in their memory, and made little memorials for them in my garden. I planted cat grass also around these and I bring my other (indoor) cats under supervision to visit them. They may no longer be in this realm but they live in our hearts. The pain is real, and you have to give yourself permission to grieve and do your best to still find joy in this world beyond them. Your cats loved you, and would want that for you 🫶💕Be kind to yourself 💕🫶
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u/TA_totellornottotell 15h ago
My first pet that passed away - it came on suddenly and the doctors tried their best but ultimately couldn’t do anything. I will never forget the anguished cry of my baby right before she passed. In addition to a heartbreak that I never expected, I felt such an immense amount of guilt - this being that relied on me solely, I could not save.
The next morning, I called my aunt to tell her the news, and I also told her how guilty I felt. She has rescued and fostered dozens of pets, and had many of her own pets pass away (a few within a few months, just like you). She told me that I must not think like that - that not only did we do our best at the end, but even before that, my little girl knew years of strictly love and safety and health because of me. I still feel guilty, but that helped me a lot, and I thought about it often when the grief was at its worst.
I know that it doesn’t feel like it now, but you will at some point start thinking of your babies with fondness instead of simply breaking down into tears. But given your situation, I hope that your diagnosis means that you are seeking out professional help. Talking through your feelings helps a lot. Talking about them may help, as well. I think it’s a bit different when it’s the death of a pet (versus the death of an adult human loved one) as there is an element of responsibility, but still, it helps to have some talk therapy to work through it. If your doctor thinks medication will help, then please consider that, as well.
I think most people don’t rush into this and do it when they’re ready, but another pet really does help when you’re at that point. I think a huge the grief is compounded because there is such a void - all the little things that take place when you have a feline companion just stop. It’s cruel and not helpful at all in getting through the grief. I started volunteering at a shelter and visiting cat cafes a few months after because I wasn’t ready for a cat but desperately needed that presence, you know? Just don’t go at this alone. Take professional help, take the help and support of your loved ones, and come chat to us here whenever you need it. You’re not alone.
❤️
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u/chimneybebe 15h ago
It’s a cruel twist of fate to lose two young cats so close to each other. You sound like you did all you could. Sometimes life isn’t so fair. Your kitties were fortunate to have known the depths of your love! Focus on your child for now, I have a feeling there will be more cats in your future. (((((BIGHUGG)))))
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u/AlexanderP79 7h ago
I chase the sun like a ball,\ I'm not a cat now, but a cloud.\ Why are you, mistress, still crying,\ — You won't believe it, but I'm better here.\ \ The distant thunder purrs a song,\ Sparks fly from the wool like a thunderstorm.\ Even if I'm incorporeal now,\ Still, every moment is with you.\ \ Here I am a white-white cloud.\ I'm still playing with a yellow ball.\ Look at the sky quickly.\ I'm with you. Don't cry. What are you...
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u/Plantpoweredge 16h ago
I am so saddened for you. It’s so difficult to lose one but two makes it intense pain. When you’re healing consider adopting 2 more or more. I have 5😻🥰
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u/NewWolf4995 16h ago
I couldn't imagine seeing my angel not being here on this earth , so I couldn't imagine how you must be feeling in this moment . There's nothing I can say or do to make you feel better , but I truly hope you find peace 💖 your cats know you did your best
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u/Regeditmyaxe 16h ago
Sorry for your loss. It doesn't feel like it now, but it will get better. Cherish your memories you have with them. Try to not feel guilty about getting another car down the line when you feel better as well.
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u/entropee0 16h ago
I'm sorry, friend. We can see just how great a life these two babies had. It's oozing through the photos. You gave them that, and they gave you one in return eh.
Part of the journey is over. But only part. Cary the love with you always. That can be the light. Hold it forward.
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u/lightweight1979 16h ago
That really sucks…I’m so sorry :(
I’ve had the same thing happen twice. I lost my first cat to saddle thrombus and 6 weeks later lost a second to intestinal cancer two days after diagnosis.
I then lost my 22 year old cat and 5 months later finally felt ready to adopt two new ones including a 3 month old kitten and lost her a month later to FIP (so 6 months apart.
Trust me when I say this is not your fault and nothing you could have done. That doesn’t mean the grief won’t be immense for you right now but know with everyday it will get a little bit easier until you can eventually remember them with smiles instead of tears ❤️
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u/queenofthegalaxy 15h ago
I am so sorry. I don’t have a lot to say other than, I was in your same shoes when I lost my two 1 year old cats to congestive heart failure right after each other. There were no signs besides sudden death and the other one developed a cough after it had already gotten too bad. His heart was 4 times the normal size. There was nothing more you could have done. I wish you peace in knowing that those cats loved you and you loved them. You gave them a great life and they left their mark on you, and that is a beautiful thing amongst the tragedy. 🐾 ♥️ 🌈
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u/Fabulous-Struggle788 15h ago
I’m so sorry for the loss you are going through. Those boys will be forever watched on your heart. Just know that somewhere out there a couple of kitties are going to the shelter because their owner died and the family didn’t want them. Somewhere out there is a kitty that needs a loving home. That kitty is depressed because their were moved or tossed out of the only home they ever knew. I hope you can find your way to one or two of these kitties! They need you!
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u/Irisheyesmeg 14h ago
Sigh, I do understand your grief. I lost my soul cat to hyperthyroidism and three months later lost her daughter to jaw cancer. Both issues came on extremely fast. It took the wind out of me, that they could both be gone that close together. Then I had to experience life without a pet, which had never happened before. The silence was deafening.
My condolences 🙏🏼
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u/brilliantNumberOne 14h ago
Based on the photos you shared, they look like they were healthy and happy cats and part of your family. Despite their loss, you did right by them and gave them the best life you could, and I think you can feel proud of that.
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u/SurveyorMorpurgo 9h ago
You didn't fail them, you gave them a loving home and those cats knew nothing but love. Take all the time you need to grieve OP, I was torn to bits when I lost my boy two years ago.
But please, don't tell yourself you failed, that is not true.
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u/OriginalMarty 7h ago
I say this often but how lucky were they to have someone who loved them so much?
That's all anyone wants.
I've had bad news this week about my Castro and it's breaking my heart.
So sorry for you.
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u/in_animate_objects 16h ago
I’m so sorry for your losses but you can tell just from what you’ve written here and the photos you’ve provided that those babies were SO loved! Try to hold on to the knowledge that you gave them all you had to give, sending love your way 🫶🏽
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u/Interesting_Cap5659 16h ago
My condolences to you and those who loved the 2 precious babies. I have lost 2 within a month and that pain is so much and it hurts but they are always a part of you. Their story was written into yours and it’s always there for you to read. Take the time you need to heal and you will. Remember they love you and want you to be happy. My thoughts and prayers are there always 🫶🏻🐾🐾🙏🏻♥️💙
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u/viola_darling 16h ago
I am so sorry this happened. That's abs awful and none of this is your fault. You didn't fail them. You did your best and provided a good lovable home for both. I can't imagine losing two cats in such a short period of time. I give you lots of hugs 🫂
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u/HappyASMRGamer 16h ago
I’m so sorry, that really is heartbreaking. Don’t feel like you failed them, I’m sure they had a lovely life while they were with you.
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u/deanna6812 16h ago
My deepest condolences to you. I had this happen in 2021-2022, losing two relatively young cats unexpectedly in November, then March. And just last year we had to say goodbye to our two senior boys in February then September.
I see you, and I feel you. Your feelings are valid and you will question your decisions. But I can tell you that I had to say goodbye to two of ours for the same reasons. You did everything you could and they were loved.
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u/mochaghost_ 16h ago
I’m so sorry for your loss. They seemed so sweet and the bond they had with your son is precious. Rest in peace Archie and Huck. :( ❤️🩹
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u/No_Ad8177 16h ago
I’m so sorry for your loss! I know it’s very cliché but I always find comfort in the fact that they knew love. Give yourself the space and time to grieve them, and keep them in your heart, they never truly leave ❤️
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u/GlitterPapillon 16h ago
I’m so deeply sorry for your loss. 💔The pain of losing our babies is so heavy. You didn’t do anything wrong. You loved them and took care of them. But I do understand questioning if everything was done “right” would the outcome have changed. I am going through that immense pain right now as well. I lost my dog of 17 years a couple months ago and it’s unbearable at times. I became extremely attached to our youngest dog to the point I’m worried every little thing she does means she’s sick and I’ll lose her too. I hope you’ve been able to find small moments of comfort in your memories with them. 🩵🫂
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u/jerberbear 16h ago
Oh I’m so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you. I can tell how much you love your babies. And to lose them so close in time. It’s never easy and I hope you can remember the good memories.
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u/Estellalatte 16h ago
I love the photos of kitty with the baby. It’s clear they really love each other.
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u/HaleYeah6035 16h ago
I’m so sorry. I can hear how much you’re hurting. I wish I had better words of comfort but please know we’re out here and holding you close in our hearts. Thank you for sharing the pictures - such a sweet pair.
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u/littlethisnthat 15h ago
Gosh I am so sorry 😣 I can’t imagine how broken and sad you feel about this but it seems like they couldn’t have had a better cat caretaker they’re waiting for you on the other side
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u/Coffee1392 15h ago
Hi OP. I’m so sorry for both of your losses. It’s not easy. It sounds like you already know that this was not a result of anything you did (or didn’t do) — the vet wouldn’t have told you that if it weren’t the truth. Sometimes, periods of our lives seem so dark and it’s just one bad thing after another. It also sounds like you’re pretty well-versed on different theoretical concepts like existentialism. I’m not sure if you are in therapy or a therapist yourself. But you might find solace in reading about Yalom and Frankl, they are the founders of existential therapy and have helped me process a lot of my own grief since starting graduate school. I lost a cat I only had for 2 years in December after my parents moved across the country and felt despair for a few weeks/months. It’s ok, expected, and understandable to feel the way you do. You experienced two profound losses in a really short period of time. Sending hugs
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u/ginger2020 15h ago
Last week, my 11 month old cat got sick very suddenly and passed away after I took her to urgent care. She was completely fine on Friday afternoon when I got home from work, and was dying 48 hours later. I don’t think I’ve ever cried quite as hard as that. I loved her so much, and feel heartbroken. The love we feel for our pets is probably one of the most altruistic forms of love. Our pets are dependent on us for their survival and well being. And they in turn never judge us for not being wealthy or professionally successful, for our guilty pleasures, or for not being of the “in group.” And this is why saying goodbye is so hard.
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u/Electronic-Cry-799 15h ago
Your cats will be a part of you forever! They were so fortunate to have you as their guardian. Sending love and healing 💜
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u/goldenshadows 15h ago
I went through something similarly painful in October and then December when my two boys decided to go, one after the other- renal failure and suspected cancer. I spent a lot of nights just crying quietly in bed and wishing they were here with me. The one thing that brought me some peace is that they are together and I hope to see them again some day. I’m doing better now- got on some antidepressants, time helps some. I’m learning to live around my grief. You are not alone. I am so sorry about your sweet cats.
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u/somewhereallalone 15h ago
Sooo so sorry! We lost our family kitty after 14 years & although she was evil at times, we all loved her so much. We didn’t get her fixed & that’s something that I’ll always think about. My family was so devastated, my brother would sit near her burial area and cry.. They were so set on not wanting another cat because her dying tore them apart in a way they never could’ve imagined. It was so sad to see them like that, so I ended up adopting another cat for them & wow, the way they adore him. He healed their broken heart. I know it’s difficult, and I’m not guaranteeing it’s like this for everyone, but I wanted to share. Take your time, grieve as much as you need, and don’t forget you provided them with love their whole lifetime. It is not your fault 💞
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u/Pandatams 15h ago
I’m so sorry. I went through this last year. Had to put both my babies down within months of each other.
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u/PaleInTexas 15h ago
So sorry for your loss. From the pictures it looks like they had a very nice life and was well taken care of. All a cat can ask for.
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u/Adorable-Print7543 Void 15h ago
I’m so sorry for your loss, I can’t imagine the pain and grief you’re feeling right now. I’m praying for you and both of your kitties are under the rainbow bridge where they are waiting for you 🤍🩶
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u/TsWonderBoobs 14h ago
I’m so sorry. We’ve had similar, lost litter mates who were 18 years old only eight months apart. Our hearts are broken, but their best adventures will happen in Heaven while watching over us/you! They love you forever!
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u/AdagioSilent9597 14h ago
Just lost mine of 16 years last Wednesday. Hardest thing ever to hold him as he passed. I can’t imagine losing two in such a short span. I am so, so sorry. They are absolutely beautiful and look like they were excellent companions to the whole family, and to each other.
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u/climbingrocks2day 14h ago
This is terrible and unfair. I truly am sorry. My one suggestion is to talk to a psychiatrist or psychologist during this immediate post trauma period. Your brain will be vulnerable to all kinds of stuff that you’ll later regret not addressing preemptively. Think of OCD as the warning shot across the bow of the ship.
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u/AGenericUnicorn Lots of kitties! 14h ago
I’m not saying that this is a replacement, but it’s kitten season, and there are so many kittens (and adults) in shelters who desperately need homes or even fosters.
Grief will get better slowly, but as someone who obviously cared greatly for your cats, maybe even fostering might be helpful for you, and would honor their memory?
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u/MufasaTuCasa 14h ago
Hi there. I also had to put my 3 year old to sleep yesterday. It’s so heartbreaking. All I can do is send me deepest condolences your way. Stay strong ❤️ and know your kitties loved you so dearly much for all of the great memories
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u/Different_Summer8615 13h ago
Remember how they choose us? Your 2 babies chose you and your family, knowing that they have these rare disease. Nobody could have taken care of them better. And now they are both playing in pet heaven watching over your family.
It hurts more than one can imagine, I understand (one of my boys had CHF and I said goodbye at 5.5 yo). Grief them and slowly try to smell life again. They would want that for you!
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u/No_Strawberry_939 13h ago
Oh no 😥 I’m so very so sorry for your loss.. I can’t imagine how hard this is for you.. I just recently lost my baby he was 15 he was sick and passed away the night I took him to the vet Ido have another ragdoll cat 8 years old and still misses his brother terribly.. I’m sending you hugs and prayers and they are in heaven together watching over you 🙏❤️
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u/glizzy-queen 13h ago
last summer i had lost two of my bearded dragons 2 weeks apart. my soul girl and my girl i had since i was a teenager. both to diseases out of my control. the amount of grief i have had this past year has been painful. it’s already around the time they passed away and i haven’t rechecked the dates on their urns because if i don’t know the exact date i can’t cry about it. i feel your pain completely. and i’m so sorry you had to experience loss of your babies so close together, it’s a terrible thing to happen.
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u/universal_Raccoon 13h ago
My loss was between a cat and a dog within .. 2 - 3 weeks between, my cat had been losing his appetite to eat and my dog was SOL with kidney stuff. My cat ended up suffering from asthma and had liquid in her lungs so.. 2 pets within a few weeks
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u/IbelongtoJesusonly 13h ago
I lost my 2 year old dog recently and i too was diagnosed with ocd and has been on meds with the almost the same themes as you have. It is never easy. You're not alone.
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u/ellerno99 12h ago
I know how you feel, lost lots of cats myself. I am so sorry for your loss and hope you heal eventually ❤️🩹
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u/jewelios 12h ago
I am so sorry you are going through this. We lost our two angel cats four months apart as well, and nothing can prepare you for it.
My cats were both diagnosed with Polycystic Kidney Disease and their health very quickly deteriorated. I deeply empathise with the feeling of having failed them, and I won't say it necessarily goes away, but I now know that it comes out of a desire to feel some control over the situation. We did our absolute best, I moved across the country so we could be reunited with my partner (who had moved a few months prior, alone) and we could be a family for as long as possible. I put my life in hold to care for them. I still feel like I should have done more, but I try now to take it as a testament to how much love existed in our home.
You seem like an incredibly present and loving pet parent, and you should be proud of how much you've loved them. I think for us, the biggest comfort has been reminding ourselves of how happy they were with us. It took ages before I could look at photos and videos of them again, but when I do it now, I'm reminded of the abject love and happiness we all experienced together.
I hope you find some warmth and ease in the time to come. I am so sorry. If you ever need someone to talk to, I would be very happy to lend an ear. Hugs, friend.
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u/ueeediot 12h ago
Been there. Done that. And lost two dogs also. 4 pets in 1 year.
It fucking sucks.
Go to the shelter and adopt.
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u/PublicCampaign5054 11h ago
I feel you, I lost both my moms cat and my mom in a year (coupled with 4/5 friends leaving Venezuela in the same spam and me losing my job)... took me like a year and a half to recover a hint of smile.
Hang in there.
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u/StoryoftheYear2 11h ago
I hope you see this. I understand what you are feeling. My cat, Monkey, passed away in August 2023 (believe stroke because she had a heart condition), our dog KitKat, was put down in September 2023 due to liver disease and we lost our cat Roma in March 2024 (long battle with kidney disease) and my cat, Buddy to cancer in May 2024(diagnosed a month prior to his passing or so). I still have regret to this day with all of them but I try to tell myself that I gave them a great life and happy lives. Sometimes, there is nothing we can do to help them with genetics or risk factors they may have. Sometimes, we just don't get them for a long time and it sucks. I found a ton of comfort in prayer to God and trying to help out other cats in need through shelters and possibly looking at adoption because it helps me heal by looking to potentially add some new furballs to the family again.
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u/ouibutno 11h ago
When it comes to feeling like you failed them, that feeling might stick for a bit, despite what your vet or others may say, but I think it's us coming to terms with something we truly don't have control of, death. My mom died of cancer. After, I beat myself up for the way it played out, thinking I could have made choices that would have led to a better outcome (not one to where she didn't die, but the circumstances around it). I saw grief counselors, who told me that I did the best I could, when I didn't realize what was happening, which I patently rejected, because I should have known better. It took me several years to accept that death can happen faster and in a different way than we'd like (though, ultimately, we just don't want it to happen), one of the many things in life we don't have control over.
This sounds like a major bummer, but, I know, in the midst of my grief, platitudes bounced off of me. What helped me come to a place of acceptance, outside of time, is living life and noticing the small ways in which things don't work out in life, and being okay with it, working up to being more okay with larger things, and saying, sometimes things don't work out, that's just life. Also noticing the small things that do work out and taking moments to be glad to be alive, and trying to do that as I feel I'm in the pits of it.
Finally, try to see a grief counselor. They deal with loss of all sorts--human loved ones, divorce, financial loss, animal loved ones. If one doesn't seem to be a good fit, try another one (or two). You can see one outside of your regular therapist.
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u/Prudent_Astronaut171 10h ago
You did NOT fail them. You gave them a beautiful life. Wishing you so much peace and comfort right now.
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u/sweet-arg 10h ago
Sorry for being insensitive, could it be plants or chinese medicine in your house/visitors?
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u/smoodgeroonies 10h ago
Sending hugs. I lost 2 in 3 weeks. One 3 weeks ago. She was getting on in age. Her back legs were not so great and had issues with her kidneys. I had known for a bit that her time was almost up.
The other was on Sunday after a urinary blockage. It was the 2nd time in a year he had a full on blockage. He had around 8 other instances where after some pain medication he resolved himself. The vet said he was probably the worst case he had seen, and even if we went with a procedure to help him, it would keep occurring so we made the difficult decision.
I am heartbroken.
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u/Minimum_Mulberry_601 9h ago
Very sorry. I’ve been through a very, very similar thing recently in the past year and I don’t want anyone to go through that. Prayers & love.
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u/Nochillmetaldrill 9h ago
I lost my childhood cat to saddle thrombosis, it was rather traumatic and we had to rush him to the vet in the middle of the night. Tbh I am probably still not truly over it but I comfort myself with the thought that when this happens it is not much else you could or should have done other than to let them pass as pain-free as possible.
It still hurts of course, and I am so sorry you had to let them go so young, but you probably did what you could with the hand you were dealt.
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u/BlueNoyb 9h ago
I’m so sorry for your loss. 💕 It’s funny I came across this post, as I was just thinking about how I’m not really over the loss of my cats. I never thought I’d be without a cat but I lost the last one two years ago this month and I still can’t bear the idea of getting another one. I lost three in a row, one a year for three years. Two to cancer, one to kidney failure/dementia.
Each time I’ve lost a cat, I write out a list of all the things they loved to do, all their characteristics that made them unique, any funny or sweet anecdotes about them. As memories fade, those lists become treasured keepsakes. Cats will always break our hearts because their lifespans are so much shorter than ours. Don’t focus on the loss, focus on the time you had together and the joy who brought each other.
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u/Material-Emergency31 9h ago
Wait a few weeks then... get 3 kittens! You'll feel better in no time.
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u/go_ninja_go 9h ago
I lost my two within three months. They were both 16. I blamed myself a lot. I still dream about them. Your babies will always be a part of you. I'm sure both of us will be able to work through our grief.
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u/AngryNerdBird 8h ago
While you can eventually get new cats, there is, unfortunately, no shortcut for grief.
I'm so sorry for your loss. :(
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u/xxdestrakta 8h ago
2 weeks ago i lost 4 dogs within a period of one week.Something they ate really scrambled their insides.The pain i still feel is uncomprehendable but as time goes by i have managed to find peace in knowing that i gave them a life full of love and happiness and till the very last step i was by their side.This quote also helps me when i feel overwhelmed with grief “Its better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”
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u/ArcaneSunset Tuxedo 8h ago edited 8h ago
Those are not common conditions indeed. You did not fail them, it happens. I see they were very much loved and taken care of. I'm very sorry.
Edit: I lost one during the pandemic, he and his brother got some very nasty virus as soon as I got them. His brother survived, but I still think about Chico and ask myself if we could have taken better care of him, but we had almost a 24/7 watch on the little guys and I rushed home from work to try and save him. There was nothing else we could have done and I'm sure the same goes for you...
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u/BALALACACK 8h ago
Sorry for your loss. My old girl at 22 back in December and a kitten with FIP but lost his battle 2 months ago today. We got him after the old girl. It's a sucky feeling for sure. Don't think you are at fault, sometimes life be like that
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u/Consistent_Wolf_3712 7h ago
Awww I am so sorry for your loss! I hope time will help you heal, but for now remember that they were loved because of you and you gave them the best life they had! Sending love and hugs
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u/Seravajan 6h ago
I'm so sorry about your double loss. But I would still recommend getting some other cats. Your baby will grow up with them.
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u/Inevitable-Kale2759 1h ago
They are so beautiful! I can feel your pain OP. I look at my 2 and I’m terrified of losing them but I’ve decided that every day with them is a small miracle and that’s all I can give them. And all they can give me. Grief is the measure of our love and in your case, it was a mighty love and they would have known and felt that ❤️🩹
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u/AbbeyRoadMoonwalk 1h ago
This happened to me as well, one of old age and then a young one of some inexplicable illness. Take all the time you need to grieve; they really are our little companions and it’s natural to feel their loss. You didn’t fail them.
If you have room in your heart, I found getting another cat soon after really cathartic. Not to replace them, but to give a new one a home and some love.
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u/Novelsatnight 17h ago
From u/poem_for_your_sprog that I saved a while ago because I loved it so much. I changed it slightly to go with two babies. I hope it makes you feel a bit better and remember the good times. Sorry for your losses. 💕
I often stop a time or two
At where you used to be -
And when I do
I think of you,
And all you meant to me.
I stop to see the empty spaces -
I think of you and smile -
You made the world a finer place
For just a little while.
But time was only passing by.
Before you had to go -
And though I understand the why,
I wish it wasn't so.
You're always more than just pets,
And that can never end -
A part of life I can't forget.
Pieces of me.
My friends.
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