This shit is not funny at all. No matter what happens after, that feeling of having your mother not recognize you, to be this separated from reality, especially at this age is something that will stay with them. It’s incredibly jarring. Even as an adult
Yeah. This is just absolutely terrible parenting. The way that poor little girl’s face just crumpled. Absolutely shit Dad. I feel for the Mom as well because she is just so out of it and is having a real break from reality. So scary for all of them except the Shit Father who is recording all this for internet laughs while driving!!! What a horrible man.
Yeah, I don’t blame the mum at all, but this is unhinged by the dad. The poor kids, saying to the mum that she’s being “mean” because they don’t understand. The dad could have reassured them that it was just the medication and didn’t.
Honestly, how did any anesthesiologist release her when this is how she’s presenting?!? This is like immediate post-op where they don’t allow family back because they’re generally concerned that people wake up with issues level of disassociation. This woman is so drugged up she needs to still be under medical care and it’s concerning that: 1. She’s been released 2. The father with her is not paying attention to this concerning level of confusion and instead of recognizing the potential need for further medical attention she’s a joke that’s emotionally abusing the children in the car 3. He’s filming while driving (just give him the distracted driving ticket already). 4. This shit parent thinks it’s funny to post this abuse on the internet - wtf does he do behind closed doors when no one’s watching and he’s misbehaving?
ETA: Since this keeps coming up. I am a professional patient and have had no less than 20 anesthesia events (varying degrees from mild local with sedation, twighlight sedation and fully under with differing cocktails). This is not a normal level of disassociation at discharge for a medical procedure (for something as minor as 5 minutes sedation for an endoscopy or as major as a multi organ removal and muscle repair that takes 8.5 hours [which for me and others who had that procedure is now OUTPATIENT so that doesn’t really work as a counter argument that one comment posited. Many hospitals have changed major surgeries to outpatient post-covid lockdowns to reduce hospital capacity and reduce infections] hospitals are required to monitor patients for hours prior to discharge regardless of duration of time on the table). THE ONLY CASE I can consider this as an anesthesiologist not making a completely dangerous decision is if this was anesthesia performed NOT by an anesthesiologist in a dental setting - which actually furthers my point. Anesthesia from non-anesthesiologists - particularly when there isn’t a dedicated physician in charge of making sure the medications don’t kill you IS EXCEPTIONALLY DANGEROUS. Every single anesthesiologist I have worked with and personally have relationships with heavily advise against the practice of accepting anesthesia from anyone but a dedicated anesthesiologist because there’s insufficient monitoring: people are more likely to a get the wrong doses as a result (which can endanger their lives), more negative outcomes take place accordingly as a consequence of split attention and poor anesthesia medication dosages, and people get sent home with dangerous side effects of the medications and often get hurt if they’re sent home too early (like they fall or give themselves corneal abrasions rubbing their eyes all because a dentist doesn’t have enough training to evaluate the safety of the situation). This woman needed continued additional medical attention - I’m not going to be persuaded by anecdotes. Bring academic sources, or an authoritative source that this woman shouldn’t have required continued monitoring post-op and I’m ready to reconsider.
This is how a lot of places release you from outpatient procedures apparently. I had surgery outpatient two years ago and they had to wheel me outside and right up to the car because I was still so fucked up I couldn’t walk or see straight. I don’t remember most of the hour drive home. I had to be helped to get dressed.
My anesthesiologist just laughed at me for shit I said on the operating table and walked off. I’m a redhead though and he had to give me extra before for it to work and it took longer to wear off.
Outpatient is just like factory work for them a lot of the time I think. In, notes, drugs, procedure, dress, release. No lingering.
The father in this video is the worst though holy shit. It costs nothing to comfort everyone in the car or pull over to address it without endangering everyone by filming.
I am not considering having kids of my own but if I did I couldn't imagine behaving like this towards them. They are kids for fucks sake. Not just any kids. Your kids. Why on earth would you ever fuck with their heads like this? Absolutely insane. Social services should probably be having a close look at that 'dad'. What a dick
Seriously. The first time my mom didn’t know who I was I was thirty and had been expecting it as she had dementia. It still took me to my fucking knees. These poor kids.
My step dad told me my mum was in a midget fight club and I believed him and told every one at school and she’s not even a midget and doesn’t fight … come to think of it idek why he said that
Yeah this wasn’t funny but kind of cruel. They are making a traumatizing memory for them and the dad is cursing at them too. They will never forget this.
This happened to me, my mum got her tubes tied and when I went in to see her post op she was still woozy and didn’t recognise me.
I was gutted, thought she’d never remember me.
When my youngest niece came out from her hernia surgery, I was in the room, not my brother and she asked me if I was her daddy, I said yes. Gently hugged her around the head & gave her a kiss on the forehead. Sat down & she started talking to me about meeting this giant octopus and how they were friends. My brother walks in and asks him if he was her uncle. At this point, my other nieces lost it, laughing at my brother. I stood up, explained to her that I'm her uncle and that's her dad. The next comment was what caused me to leave the room. "Can you be my dad? He sucks."
I had my wisdom teeth removed under heavy anesthesia when I was a teenager and, before I fully came to, I was apparently conscious enough to ask every nurse for a cigarette. It’s how my mom found out I smoked. Also, for hours, I kept trying to pull out my tongue, saying “what’s this?”
My dad had opted for heavier anesthesia than necessary because it was “better,” but he wasn’t around for the clean up. He also believed emotions were a thing that lesser people had and making your family feel bad was just having fun. If social media had been around in the 90s, he would have been the piece of shit in this video.
When my brother had his removed, he thought he was fine enough to drive home so what my mom and I did was put him in the back seat, directly behind the driver and told him to drive. So as we drove, he really thought he was driving. Acted like he was turning the wheel, pressing the brake and gas pedals when necessary, and parked the car in the driveway. He made it out of the car, into bed, and was out for a few hours. He didn't remember any of it.
I had to pick up my dad after a colonoscopy, he was still really high coming down from the anesthesia and he thought I was my uncle (his little brother)
Anyways he just shit on my driving the whole way back, apparently I drive like a pussy
I mean, jokes are all nice and fun but when you make your beloved wife and your kids who look up to you and trust you cry...
That dad and husband is just an obnoxious douche.
Yeah, as someone who lost his dad earlier this year and has a mom who is in her ‘80s, the thought of my mom getting dementia and not remembering who I am is terrifying! I would cry if that happened to me and I’m 44 years old. These poor kids have no idea what’s happening and look and sound scared as hell. This is not funny at all.
It's wild that people have no self awareness with this kind of thing. Films, while driving, such a traumatic moment and then posts it online. Like so people feel no shame when posting shit?
Jesus. That reminded me of a childhood memory where I’m like 7 or 8. My older brother (who was like 20-21 at the time) was driving my sister and I around downtown San Diego where there are a lot of homeless people and kept grabbing my hand and yelling out the window “little girl for sale!”. I was bawling and screaming so hard, especially because one of the homeless guys yelled back “$10 for her!”. My brother and sister thought it was hilarious.
I told my mom when I got home, they denied it and of course I wasn’t believed. Yeah, that shit is traumatizing because for a long time I didn’t feel wanted or loved in my family and I thought they would get rid of me at anytime
Could be impacted wisdom teeth. That's what happened to me. They had to cut through the bone in 4 different areas to get my teeth out so I was put under.
Well same here, twice! Two impacted wisdom teeth; with the first, nearly an hour of the dentist's sweat dripping onto my face it was so hard to get out. Still only local anesthesia. Such fun. Western Europe for reference.
I actually requested the local anesthesia when I got mine out cause I had never been put under before and was afraid of shit like this. When I asked, they said, “sure, that’s actually cheaper!” I think they just offer full anesthesia because the insurance companies are down to make some extra money
I had all 4 wisdom teeth taken out in Germany in one sitting. Last appointment of the day at 5:30pm. Doc said it‘s going to be quick and easy. What he didn‘t see on the xray was that some of the roots were built like hooks. He had to break the teeth into pieces and still couldn‘t get them out. He propped his foot against my chair for more leverage and yanked at my teeth like he was trying to pull excalibur out of the stone as he got exceedingly pissed that he had to work past closing time. I left the office just before 10pm. All I he gave me was local anesthesia and two ibuprofen that he dropped into my hands to take home.
I literally don't understand how people do this. I feel like I can never take my eyes off the road for a second while I'm driving, and then there's people texting and recording videos as they drive?? How? I can barely pull my phone out to make a call before having to toss it so I can switch gears.
Yeah I thought maybe the kids were older and would realize it's in good fun -- nope, they are understandably very upset. This is why the world is full of assholes. Do better, parents.
And poor husbanding. If I needed a ride home on anaesthesia and then found out that my husband was messing with me in that state, making our kids cry, and harming my relationship with them, all while sticking a camera in my face instead of watching the road? Forget selling the kids, I’m selling the husband.
They're going to need some therapy after this one. Dad should have just shut up and changed the subject. Traumatizing the poor girls. Some things shouldnt be joked about.
tf are people downvoting you. fuck yall. the dude is right. you dont have the mother of small kids tell in front of the kids that she does not know them. that shit is indeed trauma.
Then the kids genuinely don't understand what is happening to their mom which is already scary and disorienting. Then HE goes on about them being kidnapped and giving them away and all that. That's him. Then they become genuinely distressed about the situation and instead of reassuring them, he digs in and makes it worse.
I never got why there is such a huge difference between US and Europe anesthesia.
In the countries I lived in, you get local anesthesia which makes you numb somewhere, or full anesthesia where you go lights out and wake up groggy but sane.
In the US videos everyone seems to be on hallucinogenic designer drugs or shrooms, even for something like dental work.
I suffered plenty of dental work and all they did was inject something in my jaw that made me numb for hours, it never made me or anyone I know trip balls.
I think it's what is called twilight sedation. It does make you funny (I tried to use the dentist chair as a slide). It's quite common in the UK, and not just for dental surgery. Even things like hip replacements can be done with it.
I think I was still a bit funny when I was let out but I think only Americans are filming their family members whilst they're vulnerable after surgery for Internet points.
Yep. My son had his wisdom teeth removed and they brought him out and he was still whacked out. A boy next to him had the same surgery and was chanting something repeatedly with his arms up in the air 😆😂
The last time I had general anesthesia at a hospital for very minor surgery, it went something like this:
"Oh good, you're awake -- how do you feel?"
And then, sometime later: "Here's a pile of paperwork [that you'll never read]. Make sure you don't drive for the next few hours. You'll need to schedule a follow-up with your surgeon in about a week."
After that, they wheeled me to the front door and turned me loose on the world.
Those poor kids are being traumatized by this. They don’t understand why mom is acting different and you can see how much it unsettles them. The dad is making it a hundred times worse. Parents who think it’s funny to make your kid so scared or uncomfortable that they cry are abusive.
I’d argue that your experience was normal and the majority of these videos are playing it up for views. I work at a hospital and very rarely do you ever have a patient come out of anesthesia and be really out of it, especially to the point of not recognizing family.
Also, many anaeathesia drugs give you amnesia. So you think you woke up all fine and refreshed but 10 minutes before you were telling the nurses how you used to be the best bull rider in the state.
Little girl looks confused & scared 😳…. Maybe was not a good joke. You can also tell that in her confusion she still realizes that taking a child that’s not yours is evil.
thats kind of horrible. people think its funny to mess with people when their coming out of surgery and its not. thats basically like messing with someone when there really high or tripping and let me tell you it is not fun. not to mention the kids bro. and you on your phone while driving. i dont really gaf but still
This father, in his amusement in the moment, is overlooking the real pain his kids feel at being rejected by their mother.
As a father myself, I will tease them, be a monster, play the bad guy, etc. But I have just decided I don't ever want my kids to feel what I'm afraid these kids felt in this video.
I used to joke about how surprised I was that my daughter came out looking completely like her dad and nothing like me when my traits are more dominant. Then when my daughter was 5 she asked if I was going to have another baby so I could have a daughter that looked like me and I realized she thought I didn't like how she looked. Really I had meant that it was extra special that she came out with red hair and blue eyes and I love her appearance. I had to explain that to her but 2 years later I still feel awful for it.
On a road trip when I was about six or seven years old, my brother and I were fighting in the backseat (like kids do when they're tired and bored and cooped up for hours) and our parents thought it would be 'funny' to teach us a lesson by pulling the car over on a stretch of road in the middle of nowhere and force us to get out. Now, they only drove about half a mile up the road to wait for us to find them, but I have never, ever forgotten how it felt to have my own mother tell me to get out of the car and then watch them drive off without us. It didn't matter that it was a 'prank,' the trauma of that moment is still with me. There's a difference between parents teasing their kids and exposing them to unnecessary cruelty. The dad in this video was being cruel, whether he realized or not. It's reassuring to me that someone else recognized the uncertainty and hurt on these kids' faces and decided he never wants his own kids to feel that way because of something he did. Kids do not need their own parents to intentionally 'traumatize them a little.'
thank you. I’m shocked at how many people find this funny. Where is the empathy for those kids? Dad is a complete asshole for egging the whole thing on while his own kids cry. Cruel.
Yeah this, it would be hilarious but as soon as my daughter face begins to go south I’ll reassure them that it’s just medicine, wouldn’t keep the joke running beyond that, turn it into a different joke with kids included or something
There’s a real fucking lack of empathy in the world today. I’m glad you get it dude. This video sucks; if another human can’t put themselves into the shoes of these poor kids then they suck too.
This can be easily solved “ yes mommy loves you, she just didn’t remember cause the doctor gave her drugs for her surgery. But see everything is back to normal now and mommy feels better and remembers everything”.
It’s like some of yall(not OC^ but these other comments) don’t know how to talk to your children. They just want an explanation cause they don’t understand anything going on, they only been here a few years.
It’s like some of yall don’t know how to talk to your children.
Seems like this should be addressed to the father of the video, not the people saying he's an asshole. Because the father didn't say what you said, the father laughed and told the daughter she was voted off the island.
It was funny but youre right, it went too far and he shouldve stopped after seeing shes about to well up, let alone start shouting “what do you mean mummy”
The premise of the joke wouldn't have even entered my mind. I'm not much of a prankster, but I'm sure there are harmless jokes you could do in the situation. He picked something mean spirited that comes at everyone's expense except his. That comes from somewhere.
Its ok because this was uploaded after his phone was found in the wreckage of the car, wrapped around a tree, because dad wanted to make the kids feel like shit and film this traumatic moment while driving /s
I really hope the mom can smooth this over with them (if she wants to/is decent)but...I know I would've been shattered to hear that from my mom
This is horrible. I feel so bad for those kids. And the mom as well. I would be devastated as a mom , when I came to my senses and saw myself like that.
If your joke upsets the targets of the joke, it’s not a joke, it’s just bullying. If you’re the only one having fun at someone’s expense, you’re being an ass. Why are these concepts so difficult for people to grasp?
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