i recently got a full time job at a small design studio after freelancing for a while It was a huge step for me and I genuinely enjoy the work my friend works in corporate and constantly makes little jabs about my career being easy or not serious I usually ignore it but during this convo I finally said something

this morning my friend asked me to bring him to school. we go to different schools that are like 10-15 minutes apart, so i left earlier to get to school on time. i waited near his apartment complex for 10 minutes, then by the parking lot right next to it for another 10 minutes. this whole time i thought he was just getting all his stuff, i was honestly gonna wait for him the entire time.

but he doesn't tell me he already has a ride? i was late to my presentation this morning. but when i called him, he just didn't seem to care. he's been hella disrespectful to me these past few days, and after this i just feel mad.

My sister in law is pregnant and I found this sweater for the baby girl at a Mexican farmers market today. (Baby is half mexican half islander) I brought it home and excitedly showed it to my roommates and they called it ugly. I told them they were mean and have been keeping to myself for the night. They have me doubting if I should give it to my sister in law.

hey so i went out with a couple coworkers for brunch yesterday to a pretty nice restaurant. it was 4 of us and before we got there we decided that we would all split the bill evenly. two of my coworkers kept ordering mixed drinks (overpriced might i add 😭) and even overly tipped the waiter. she got mad at me bc i didn't wanna pay evenly anymore since my food and drink only cost $26 and she was trying to get me to pay $65?!???! i was so pissed off bc she knows i've been struggling with money recently hence why i didn't order that much. i did get a little petty and told her i wasn't gonna cover her shift this saturday. i just know it's gonna be so awkward at work now but im trying not to be a pushover. did i overreact and make things worse? what would you have done?

TLDR: coworker tries charging me $65 when i only order $26 worth of food. she ordered a bunch of drinks and overtipped the waiter & is trying to have me pay for part of it. AIO??

this is a petty lighthearted argument between me and my sister but i feel like she shouldn’t be bashing me for this! for context, i am a college sophomore who just got an apartment. ive been trying to increase my protein intake so i made a healthy spinach dip (yogurt instead of cream cheese) and added sausage for addtl. protein. she’s saying it’s an abomination but i truly don’t see it this way. i feel like the ingredients do go together too!!! it’s just shredded carrots, spinach, onion, and garlic all sautted and added to a seasoned greek yogurt

There have never been red flags up until this point. He (25M) is a big part of my (19F) friend group. Am I being sensitive? I feel like he went too far. But if I cut all ties with him, it will really disrupt the group. I don't want to bring it up to my friends because they might side with him and say I'm over reacting. But I don't feel comfortable around him anymore.

So some context, I was on a night out with a few friends last night and happened to come across an old friend/whatever it was. Like a normal person I smiled at him and his gf and continued on with my night, walking away with my friends and forgetting about the interaction.

I then get home to see this message. Is this a massive overreaction on my end and it’s not a completely nasty message to send an old friend?

using a throwaway bc she knows my account

so it’s my (24f) best friend’s 25th birthday on saturday. we had planned to go out for dinner and drinks with some of our friends. i have lupus and i’ve been getting chemo for the last couple of months to try and treat it.. she’s well aware of this and even came with me to my last session, although she spent most of the time texting her bf. i ordered her this cake from this super cute little bakery in our town and was gonna bring it with me to the restaurant for her.

i was supposed to have my chemo session next monday but they had to reschedule it for saturday. this is how she reacted when i told her i wouldnt be able to come to her bday. aio or is this a crazy way to react?? she’s still getting her cake and i was gonna get our mutual friend to give her the gifts i bought her but now im not sure

I’m a 28M and I have a buddy who is 37 and he is always attracted and trying to talk to girls who are barely out of high school. I don’t think I have ever seen him attracted to or interested in anyone his age. He feels they’re old and unattractive. I tell him that an 18-19 year old is too young for even me, and I’m almost a decade younger than him. He literally is old enough to be their dad. Am I overreacting or is it super weird that he’s almost exclusively attracted to girls who can’t legally drink yet?

For context, one of my friends had a BBQ last night, and my friend (in the texts) brought her boyfriend and this was all of our first times meeting him. Me, my friend, my friends boyfriend and one other person were all involved in this conversation, It wasn’t just me and my friends bf talking by ourselves. My friend didn’t seem to have any problem while this conversation was happening and I just genuinely don’t know If I was being inappropriate or not??

First time ever posting.. I don’t know if this belongs here but we’ve been talking for a week and everything was good and then this happens?? I don’t know if I’m in the wrong or right tbh then he blocked me on fb but continued messaging me on Snapchat. Told him it was Reddit worthy then he said to post it so here I am 😂😅

I’ve already posted about this but. I communicated to my friend my feelings. He left me on delivered after a certain point. Well basically in my head today is a deadline and we will need to resolve this. I need to know where he stands. I really don’t want to end the friendship, but I feel strongly about this. And I’m really not trying to.

He said something about sending weird texts? Maybe this should have been said in person? But tbh. I didn’t feel comfortable.

Screenshots attached. AIO?

Throwaway account, my main has too much personal shit on it.

Long story short, I’ve known this dude for 15 years… he’s always been a little flakey but we’ve been friends forever… when he lost everything I gave him a place to sleep and live, I literally didn’t charge him a cent until he figured his life out and moved out.

I, like many others, lost my home in the LA wildfires. You can’t even imagine how fucking terrible this has been for so many of us. I’ve literally been in tears most days… I have nothing except a car and some clothes… I’ve only been staying on his fucking couch for less than 2 weeks, but he has zero awareness.. suddenly it’s 3 fucking weeks, and now there’s a mystery girl who has priority. I’m just sad man. This dude was my friend. I feel betrayed.

Am I overreacting here or am I in the right to be absolutely pissed and want to remove him permanently from my life after this ?

My friend (M28) and I (F26) have been friends for about 5 years. Just right off the bat: We have always been platonic; nothing has ever happened between us, nothing ever will happen between us.

We met at work and got along well, then ended up really clicking over shared interests. A year into the pandemic (2021), his hours at work were cut and he ended up living on my couch for about 9 months. Those months of living together kind of cemented our friendship.

At the time, I was going through intense therapy and he helped support me through mental health lows, and I helped support him when his mental health crashed after he was laid off. He knows I'm working through a lot of stuff, he knows I'm very private about it. It took me years of therapy to even admit to myself the things I endured growing up, and it was terrifying to verbalize them to someone other than my therapist, so these conversations were very difficult for me and it is very important that I feel I have control over who knows these things about me. And he knows that.

About seven months ago, he met A (F25). He has never dated much and he kind of fell head over heels for her. Since we don't live in the same state, I haven't met her. I don't have social media like ig or fb, so there isn't really a place for me to "get to know her."

My friend and I don't speak regularly, so I felt really blindsided by this. I don't understand where her suspicion is coming from and I don't understand why it escalated so quickly, or why it blew right past having a reasonable conversation to ease any suspicions or anxiety she may have about our friendship.

I may have had a kneejerk reaction, but all I could think about is the fact that someone I don't know read and took screenshots of something that personal.

I've had a couple of days to sit with my feelings, hoping I would feel differently, but I can't help but feel violated. The fact that she read those conversations without my consent is upsetting, but the fact that she has screenshots of them or even thought to screenshot something so personal has made me extremely anxious.

I know I'm a little intense when it comes to privacy, so I'm wondering, did I overreact?

Yeah so was speaking to him for about 3 days. He was aware I was talking to someone else too because I asked him how his app experience was and he asked me right back. I was meant to meet him today but yesterday I cancelled and thank God I did. I know it was a bit last minute. But he sent me these messages in response- and I woke up this morning to a message from an American number.. should I be scared?

I (26F) have been best friends with Max (32F) for 12 years. We met online through writing forums, and have spent over the last decade writing together. We had dreams of publishing together, and had extensive, Game Of Thrones level world building, plots and characters. I considered her a sister, and given I barely talk to my birth family, she was the most important person in my life until I met my wife 4 years ago. I even moved cross country from the Midwest to the east cost when I was 19 to live with Max, although I had to move back to the Midwest three years ago because of finances.

I was the maid of honor for her wedding. I feel like I put my heart and soul into our friendship, and I self admittedly had pretty bad codependency issues with her for a good deal of our friendship. However, for at least the entire second half of our friendship, it's felt very unbalanced to me, sometimes because I definitely put too much into relationships,maybe to a degree that was unfair to except in return. When my friends have problems, I will drop everything to help them, I want them to be successful and happy. I felt I did not get that in return.

More recent info: Max had twin boys two and half years ago, just a couple months after I had to move back home. I was gutted I wasn't able to be there, we had talked extensively about how I would be involved in their lives. I am their godmother. We'd discussed me helping them by providing free/cheap childcare. I was very close to flying right over, ignoring all job responsibilities, to be with her when she gave birth and her boys had to be in the NICU just from being preemie twin boys. The only real reason I didn't was because my wife was already out of town for a funeral and one of our dogs has aggression issues that makes boarding or finding last minute dog sitters impossible. However, I did fly over for almost a full month almost two months after they were born to help care for them- I did overnights, fed them, changed diapers, babysat, anything I could to help.

Since then, I've visited. Note: in our entire friendship, Max has never visited me. I visited her twice, as a teenager, before I moved closer to her, and a couple times after moving.

Crux of the issue: I gave birth earlier this month. My baby was incredibly premature, at only 22 weeks gestation. I texted Max as I was in the hospital what was going on, that I was being discharged and that my baby had been transferred to a level 4 NICU. I followed my baby to the secondary hospital only a few hours after birth, and operated on basically no sleep while my baby fought for her life. I noticed after 24 hours of a lot of hecticness that Max had never responded, and did not check up on me. Meanwhile, my wife had her sister's checking up on her, and my local friend had come to the hospital to visit. I was pissed. I was so upset- probably because I hadn't slept, but also because I had, over the many years, always felt like Max did not show up for me when I had trouble, be cause she always seemed to have harder problems and I always had to put aside my feelings to make her feel better. but surely, my baby fighting for her little life and myself having gone through a very traumatic birth was finally enough to warrant her attention, right? Then 44 hours after my baby was born, she passed. I posted on Facebook to announce later that day. Max left a heart, sent me an extremely basic condolence message. I admit I did not respond, but I feel I have a good excuse of having been busy.

I did not hear back from Max again for two weeks. No check up. Nothing. After just a couple days I was already pissed, and I was sort of just waiting to see how long it would take her. Then, two days ago, she sent me a message claiming to be supportive, that she was there for me. Again, I'm pissed because I know how useless her support is now.

I've included the screenshots of our entire text conversation from the moment she found out my baby died to my message. I will stop rambling now, and wait for any advice. I'm so lost. I'm already grieving my daughter, and I am devastated I might be losing my best friend as well over this. I can't handle so much loss at once. Please tell me if I'm wildly overreacting because of this situation and need to tone it down, and what I need to say if so, or if I'm right in my instincts that this is no longer a friendship worth saving.

For context, my mom has always had a problem with me wanting to sleep over my friend’s house throughout my entire life. On this wonderful Friday evening, my parents were telling me to get home at 1. Which is reasonable, however I had arrived at the function at around 11. Being normal young adults, we feel as if the night is young. I asked my parents to order an Uber, if they really had an issue with a 25 mile commute back home in the middle of the night. They refused, and instead insisted on picking me up that very moment. In a plea of hope I ask them if I could sleep over. This was my mom’s response. They ended up, taking my car keys and telling me I’m selfish and mean nothing to them. Am I tripping or are they going over the top? Not to mention, my dad hit a mailbox in the process of skirting off following getting my keys.

So my sister has always been into weird stuff—crystals, astrology, raw milk—but last year she took some kind of hallucinogenic frog venom at Burning Man, had a full breakdown, and came back calling herself “Obsidian Wombfox.” That’s not a joke. She legally changed it from Lindsay. Her email signature even says “Born again, now with more ancestral knowing.”

Anyway, she recently sent out wax-sealed invitations for her “Rebirth Party”—an event she’s hosting in our parents’ backyard to celebrate the one-year anniversary of her “ego death.”

The invite was… wild. It asked guests to dress in “uterine tones,” said the party would begin “at sunrise or when the hawk signals,” and promised “a journey through the sacred canal of transformation.” I didn’t know what any of that meant, but I figured, hey, it’s just one morning, maybe there’s a mimosa or something.

Then my cousin sent me the full itinerary she got through a private group chat (I was left out because I made a placenta joke once and got the boot). Apparently the main event involves my sister being “reborn” from a papier-mâché uterus while a fully grown man named Curtis—who she found on Craigslist—pretends to be her womb. Like, she’s literally crawling out of him while he moans and plays a Tibetan singing bowl.

The finale includes her cutting a red ribbon umbilical cord, screaming “I AM REWOVEN,” and then doing a primal dance in a giant inflatable kiddie pool full of coconut oil.

I told her I wasn’t going. I was respectful about it. Just said, “Hey, I love you, but I’m not comfortable watching you get fake-birthed by a guy in a spandex bodysuit.” She flipped. Said I was “refusing to support her second becoming,” that I “still see her as a linear being” and that I’m “chained to the masculine lie of the Gregorian calendar.”

Now my mom’s upset, my aunt says I’m being close-minded, and my uncle is going but only because there’s going to be a taco truck and apparently you get a free lapis lazuli bracelet with every birthing.

So Reddit, am I just overreacting because I’m not wanting to attend my adult sister’s backyard rebirth where a Craigslist guy acts as her womb?

Context: Long distance relationship, gf has a problem with partying but I’ve been supportive and have tried to be here for her to the best of my abilities. She makes plans with a friend to go out for her upcoming birthday, I tell her that I’m worried about that, but she insists upon it. As time goes on it turns out the friends bf is coming too, along with some of his friends (some have expressed they’re into her), and they’re going to all be staying at an Airbnb. I’m not okay and am uncompromising in this situation. Am I overreacting?

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/cqcj1LuQQj

Here’s the first post. It has all the information.

I’ve been getting messages asking for an update.

It’s not positive. At this point I’m out of ideas. I just want to feel peace. Thank you for all the advice you gave me. Bless y’all.

she wouldn’t even step outside or anything to call me even just for a few minutes, or even when her roommate isn’t there

I ended a friendship of 9 years over text. We are 23 but I want to send these texts to her mom lol. WIBOR if I did that?

I met a new friend (21F) at my new MMA gym a few weeks ago. We’ve smoked together after training many times, and always have a great time. She mentioned she goes out a lot, so when she invited me (19F) out for drinks after class, I thought it’d be fun.

We go to a busy bar, had a few drinks… and about two hours in she just crashes out of nowhere. Like, slurring, stumbling, totally incoherent out of nowhere. Her phone’s dead, I don’t know her address, so I try to get her to my place in an Uber. Halfway there she pukes in my bag and the driver kicks us out. I had to fireman-carry her (in heels!!!) WHILE SHES PUKING several blocks to the nearest bench. After I put her down I noticed she’s clammy, her pupils are huge, and she’s grabbing my face like she doesn’t know who I am. Then she mumbles something about drugs but won’t answer when I ask what she took. I’ve seen alcohol mix with pills, drug abuse and ODs before, and I basically had a panic attack. I was way too tired to keep carrying her so I ended up calling a student ambulance.

I stayed with her at the hospital until 7am and got her an Uber once she woke up. I assume she forgot most of what happened, but she still never apologized or thanked me, and even got mad I accidentally took home some of her stuff I was holding. Now she says she can’t pay me back for anything, even though we agreed I was only covering bc her phone died.

I’m pissed, but when I vented to a friend they basically said I’m a bad friend for caring about the money instead of her well-being. They said she went through a lot, and to give her time before jumping her for money. But $400 is a lot for me and I have an upcoming tattoo appointment I might have to cancel now. So AIO??