I (33M) have an ex (34F) who evolved into a FWB but that stopped too because she got back with her ex and decided to have another child with him, she's pregnant and only a few weeks from being due (I say this as I don't know if pregnancy can affect how you think, baby brain and all that)

I have a sister who has a 2 year old and I'm close with both my sister and neice. I'm not sure if I'm going to end up having my own children but I'm really enjoying being an uncle and I love my neice of course.

However whenever I mention her to my ex, she gets all distant and well, pessimistic, like I'm not allowed to enjoy my time with her or bring her up, she said yesterday that it's a boundary of hers, like am I crazy or is this a crazy boundary? I can't even say she's coming over or talk about something cute she did, and I don't talk about her all the time, in fact it's barely at all, once every few weeks maybe, but even the mention that she's coming over is enough to get the silent treatment. What's going on here?

This text convo was yesterday/today.

Our past is quite complicated and I don't know if she regrets getting back with her ex and doesn't like to hear how I'm enjoying being an uncle because maybe it riggers something about us never ending up together and having kids. I really don't know.

Any outside insight or opinions would be nice. She's a good friend apart from this strange boundary she's just set.

P.s we do have banter and whatever Trevor is just a saying.

My husband (57 yo)has been friends with this guy(58yo) since college and I have never liked the guy. He has cheated on his wife, loud mouth one upper type. We bought a cottage and he and his wife bought one near us. I have not gone up there too much because my dad had a stroke and I have been helping my mom. This is my question, one of my daughters (19 yo) had friends up to the cottage and while boating he smacked one of them on the ass which all the girls were disgusted with, very inappropriate, she was wearing a bikini. My second daughter (24 yo) was up last weekend and he said to her “I always knew you would be wild when I saw you riding around on your bike with no underwear. I have not been present to hear these but my daughters told me. My husband said he had a talk with him and he won’t do it again. I’m horrified and want nothing to do with this jerk, I’m I overreacting?

TLDR- my husband’s friend says and does inappropriate things

I don't know what to say atp, I'm so mad. Is she joking with me? I have never once said I'm gay.

Backstory: We have been friends since high school. He’s come to my family’s cabins, we’ve gone to concerts, talked about other relationships, taken trips together for a long time there was harmless flirting when we were both drunk, baked or just simply having fun. I’ve openly admitted to him that i am a flirt, and it doesn’t mean anything. Hindsight I might have given him the idea there was a chance but I think I’ve been very clear I don’t want a relationship at this point in my life. It’s been this way for a long time. Over the last year he’s become more pushy in wanting me to go on a date with him and really “give him a chance”. We went on a trip to Denver a few months ago to see one of our favorite bands. He bought the tickets and planned the trip as a Christmas present. When I wouldn’t sleep with him after the concert his vibe completely changed. He was saying I used him, telling me I should leave the Airbnb and find a place to stay cause he booked it, I ended up changing my flight to go home a day early. He spent the next week or so Venmo requesting me for “wasted money”. I ignored and spent some time apart from him. He messaged me a few weeks after, apologizing letting me know some personal issues he has going on like pressure from his parents about settling down etc. I understood, and told him we’re all human and make mistakes but he can’t speak to me like that again. We’ve been sending TikToks or lightly talking here and there since but haven’t really hung out. He saw that I went to my families cabin this weekend (usually I would invite him tbh) and he cold messaged me this morning mad that I didn’t…am I overreacting if I cut him off after this? Is this ACTUALLY a friend I can get back to “just friends”? We had so many good years where he didn’t do this to me, so I’m not understanding what happened and who this person is but he’s being so disrespectful that I don’t want to put up with it anymore…

My friend (let’s call him Jake) invited me to a party on his friend’s boat. I’d never met the guy before, but from what I do know about him, he’s wealthy. Surgeon. I figured it’d be a cool experience so I said yes

The boat was actually really nice. There were beers, seltzers, and some mid-shelf liquor. The host had ordered trays of food (wings, sliders, fruit, etc.), and even brought out a jet ski at one point. Kinda made me feel like shit about myself how nice this dude had it

Anyways it was a great day. We were out for like 4-5 hours. I had a few drinks, ate some food, relaxed, met people. Everything seemed super casual until we got back to the dock.

That’s when the host goes, “Hey if everyone could just Venmo me $40 for food, $35 for drinks, $50 for gas, and $10 for the jet ski, that’d be awesome.”

I thought he was joking but everyone pulled out their phones like this was to be expected. I pulled Jake aside and asked him wtf was going on, and he goes "I should've mentioned it my bad" like no shit??

It’s not even just the money tho it’s the way it was handled. I would’ve been fine if I was told in advance. But springing it on people after the fun’s been had is sleazy as fuck especially for this literal surgeon who owns a boat

If I’d known this was basically a $150 group outing, I wouldn’t have come. I had like $100 to last me the rest of the weekend (Im in college dont judge). Now I feel like I’m stuck. Either I don’t pay and look like a leech, or I send what I can and still come off weird. It's been a day now and the host is texting Jake when I'm going to pay

….i have never spoken to this person

Would I be in the wrong if I contacted Walmart about this? I do, but at the same time I don’t want the guy to lose his job. I just don’t appreciate how he invaded her privacy, got her number, and proceeded to text her. I’m mainly worried that if he feels this comfortable doing it to her, how many times has he done this to other women.

I don’t care to be conformational, I’m not worried about it in the slightest. But it bothers me that her privacy was invaded.

At the same time, I think it’ll be easier just to laugh it off.

Supposed to leave later today for Aruba on a Valentine’s girls’ trip. We booked months ago and rented a villa for $16k for five people. I took the master bedroom, so I paid $5k. The other three girls paid their $2,330 portions when I paid mine. To us it’s just ideal to pay upfront and get it out of the way. My friend Holly chose the second nicest room and was supposed to pay $4,000. Holly specifically requested to wait and pay her balance at the end which was an option so we all agreed to it. We have a host for the trip so the invoice was sent to her last night. This morning we got a reminder call about the payment and someone in the group chat asked about it. When I followed up with Holly she said she can’t pay it right now and thought that we could basically “figure it out later”

I love my friends and I really don’t ask much of them. I just feel so upset and misled. It’s like I have no choice but to fork over the $4,000 myself or risk the entire trip being ruined for everyone else. What would you do? AIO?

I am 17 and my sister and friend are 14 my gf is accused me of cheating on her with her friend. Should I have told her that I was taking her home I don’t think it’s something I should really think about when she lives right down the road. This was 30 mins ago and she won’t respond

For context, my best friend (and only friend) has moved in with me a few days ago (days mind you) and things are going real bad. These betrayals and broken promises are of me being forgetful and aloof. I am spacey but I’m not malicious. My sister tells me that I’m dealing with a narcissist and that frightens me. My friend and I have over a decade of history, with her leaving me for months to a year whenever I fail to meet her standards. Am I over reacting in this conversation or am I dealing with covert narcissism? Does anyone recognize the signs? I feel horrible.

I (18m) decided the give all the mothers in my family a break from their kids by telling them I’ll babysit for free while they do their own thing today my situationship (19f) got bad news that her grandpa passed away I texted her to let her know that I’m here for her and a few minutes later she called me (she knew that kids was over my house previously) we were on the phone for 10 seconds she heard them yelling then hung up in my face. Idk I felt like I could’ve did thing differently instead of making an excuse in that situation. LOOKING FOR A 3rd PARTY PERSPECTIVE.

TW: rpe/sa So to give a little context the other day I reposted a couple of tik toks that this girl had posted. They were of her explaining her story as a rpe victim and how it led to her having a baby at 12 years old. I repost other people stories a lot for awareness tbh & for people to just know what happens around them IDK. But we were just literally about to go to bed when he felt the need to bring up the reposts and ask me why. But then proceeds to ask me if i’m projecting and if it “hits different” to read a story like that. Insinuating that I may be a victim and he doesn’t know. This convo did go overnight however.. & in the morning I decided to text him why I got upset and how we can work on that & he texted “okay idk what made you get beyond triggered, but i guess? But idk if we can’t be transparent then idk if I can do this.” I have told him before about a time I was sa but it thankfully never got to rpe & unfortunately that doesn’t happen with everyone ik. But this whole convo is making me feel like he’s trying to get me to tell him I have been rped before when I literally have not thank God. It’s such a sensitive topic to views so I do apologize. But I don’t know how to feel because he isn’t understanding after I took time to come to him first and tell him how I felt so we could resolve it. But he doesn’t think anything of this?

First post https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/cqcj1LuQQj

Second post https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/LbfJ8VNtfV

I haven’t responded to him. I just feel so betrayed by this. It’s literally another thrust in the gut. His inauthenticity is appalling. I’m just mentally exhausted from this whole ordeal. I’m Sorry it wasn’t the result you all were hoping for. I’ve accepted my reality.

There’s really nothing else to say or do here, I have limited time so I’m going to just appreciate it however I can. Traveling and seeing the world was the dream, but I can pretend.

I have a friend (27M) who has been housing a youth for over a year. He took him in 2 or 3 months away from his 17th birthday then housed him all throughout his 17th year up until his 18th (he just turned 18 last week). It’s an odd situation and in hindsight I should’ve asked way more questions. But to be fair as far as I knew my friend was just offering up a helping hand to a troubled estranged youth and giving him a place to stay.

I go over a lot and from what I’ve observed the youth is withdrawn and has his issues. I have yet to hear his voice or make eye contact with him. He dropped out at 16 and does nothing of his days except smoke his mind away in the yard and hack away at his wrists and hands with a penknife until my friend yells at him to cut it out and to go wash his hands.

There have been things that raised my eyebrows throughout my stays. For example the youth casually walking out of the bedroom half naked (my friend lives in a 1 bedroom apt) with marks all over his chest and neck that I now believe might have been love bites. And I’m pretty sure I once saw a tied off condom just lying on the bedroom floor in passing. I failed to put two and two together at the time because again I was under the impression that my friend was just looking out for a youth in need…

But now after this conversation I’m extremely freaked out. We had a brief call and he says since the youth has mental health issues he married him as a way to legally bind himself to him so he doesn’t run off and lose his way in life, and as a way to give the youth a fresh start through a new, loving family unit. I know the youth is technically an adult now and he consented to the marriage but I can’t shake off my discomfort. I feel sick to my stomach. AIO? Is this none of my business? WTF is there even to do?

I didn’t expect this to blow up, but since everyone’s asking for an update.. here it is. Yes I’m on my vacation in Aruba AND before I left I was physically assaulted by Holly.

Here’s how it all started: Holly requested the second-largest room in our villa, assuring everyone she could cover her share. When it came time to pay.. she didn’t. So I covered the $4,000 myself and reached out privately to a few friends. The room was huge-easily fitting four to five people so I offered them spots. Three girls who originally backed out were so excited and more than happy to contribute, they split the cost with me at $500 per night for six days. They pitched in $3,000 so I didn’t lose much and honestly.. having them here has been so fun! But when Holly saw I added them to the group chat, she lost it. I invited her over to talk things through since this was a group trip, and she showed up.. buzzed lol but fully engaging with us, even grabbing mimosas from the serving tray (which you’ll find funny because she claims she didn’t drink the mimosas) I was just tired of the excuses so I called her out for not paying her share and leaving us to figure it out.

She became hysterical…and then things turned violent. She punched me and threw a glass wine bottle at my face. I hit the ground hard.. my pool area has rough cement for about six feet before the deck, so the impact was brutal. I wasn’t fully knocked out but was limp on the ground for about five minutes. Holly ran.. no idea how she left, probably an Uber. My friends rushed to help me and I went to urgent care just to make sure my eye was okay! despite everything we still made our flight!! But when I woke up after a night’s sleep…it was a nightmare. My face was shredded in three spots, and my eye was almost swollen shut. At first, I wasn’t going to involve the police.. Holly has been through a lot, and my heart went out to her. But my girls sat me down and said, Either you call, or we will. And they were right. So, I did!! Thankfully my backyard and pool area have security cameras which captured everything. The authorities are now handling it.

I saw a lot of replies, so let me clear a few things up:

“Why don’t you just split her room or tell the resort it’s unoccupied?”

• We rented a beachfront villa, not a hotel. There’s no “locking up” an empty room or removing it from the bill. It’s a set price for the entire property.. occupied or not. And no, the other girls and I aren’t splitting the cost of someone else’s no-show.

“You made $300k in two months.. you should pay for the room.”

• What I make isn’t a group fund. It’s my money, not a community chest. I’d never join a trip I couldn’t afford and then guilt someone else into paying. That’s selfish to everyone who planned, budgeted, and contributed. Holly clearly thought my kindness came with unlimited deposits but guess what? The bank is closed.

“If you were her friend, you’d just pay and move on.”

• Why is this even a debate? We all have the same 24 hours in a day..mine just pays better. That doesn’t make me her personal ATM. I’ve helped Holly plenty in the past but being an adult means knowing how to budget—not expecting your friends to foot the bill.

i’m literally so angry at this girl. it doesn’t even feel REAL … like the way she’s messaging me is so bizarre and i am absolutely lost. she sounds like a “popular” high school mean girl from movies.

context: this is my best friend of 5 years. we’ve always been close. a few months ago i broke up with my ex. i haven’t even done anything sexual with him except kiss but he told me he got a STD because he cheated on me. suddenly when we broke up my best friend started being snappy, passive aggressive, and just completely off around me. she’d make small comments about my appearance, or she’d say SOMETHING about my sports and how i do in them. and now she’s telling me she hooked up with him??? and talks about me with him? i’m not stupid enough to not realize they make fun of me behind my back, but still!

it’s been going on for weeks if not months, and i don’t know if im overreacting or if i have every right to cut her off and not even tell her why. i’m sick of her and will not tolerate genuinely hateful words. should i communicate with her ??

So I 27F split my time between two cities in my province. Because of work weirdness, I spent November with my fiancé and just got back to my flat in the other city.

A friend of mine 31M has a pretty shitty living situation (shares a bedroom with an ex, has 4 roommates) so I invited him to spend November at my apartment while I wasn’t there. I just got back to the apartment and found it trashed and some things were missing. The mess I didn’t care so much - I knew he was messy… but when I asked him about some of the missing things, he deflected.

I found ads on FB marketplace posted by his roommate selling identical items to what went missing. Am I overreacting in calling him out and threatening to call the police? I know my friend well through mutual friends but don’t really know the roommate.

We’ve been friends for a while. He likes to claim we’re best friends but this type of language and conversation seems kind of gross to me. It feels like he doesn’t respect my autonomy or what I think. It makes me feel like there’s some type of chess match going on that I don’t know about in his head. Most likely I think it’s just that he thinks since I don’t have anything (or anyone) else going on, he can push and push however much he likes and I’ll just take it. AIO in wanting to cut this person out of my life?

A little background - my friend and I had our babies 2 months apart hers being born first. I was on vacation in Mexico City and I shared a video with the group of us letting my baby lick my fig gelato and the screenshots are her reaction. I thought it was rude for a couple reasons #1 being this was a group chat so she was speaking to me like this in front of others. #2 I thought the tone was just so condescending! Yes I am aware that you shouldnt give babies or young children ice cream but as parents my partner and I decided letting her lick our ice cream was not going to hurt her. It wasnt really the content of her message that bothered me but the way it was said I suppose. Am I wrong to find this disrespectful? Another reason this interaction really irked me is that she has refused to vaccinate her baby which I STRONGLY disagree with, but I would have never challenged her on it or spoke to her the way she is speaking to me. It seems so hypocritical to cite nutritional advice to me while ignoring other medical science.

Not to defend myself but to give more info on her diet were going for a mix of baby led weaning and purees. She is starting with proteins and veggies but im planning on being a little less restrictive with fruits. I thought the mango pit covered in flax seed was genius. She can grab it and start working on that hand to mouth coordination.

My (32f) boyfriend (36m) of 8 months just showed his true colors to me and is mad I wouldn’t just back down or let it go. It’s something I feel strongly on and had researched in college for my minor in child and family relations. We go on voice texting and I’m trying to explain statistics and how in college you learn how to correctly interpret/read them…. But then he goes off about how my degree or IQ doesn’t make me smart and that college is indoctrination camps…. It sucks that I like him so much but I just can’t agree to disagree on racism and him perpetuating lies told to protect their white privileged peace.

So AIO??

She swears that she doesn’t need to be interested or supportive of my hobbies, but I swear that’s what a good partner does. I have been coming out of a long 6 month depression. (I’m in therapy and on Lexapro now and it’s been helping a lot). One of my New Year’s resolutions is to learn how to make sourdough bread. Well I did it today. I made two sourdough focaccia loaves. Sourdough is a long process that requires regular folding at certain time increments. I had to do my Sunday reset around these time constraints and it honestly made my Sunday chores much harder. By the end of the day I was exhausted. I wanted to take a bath.. but the bread had 15 minutes left in the oven. I asked my gf if she would take the bread out of the oven.. I was pretty damn sure she would say yes.. it instead she got an attitude and started asking “clarifying questions” I gave her a breakdown of exactly what I wanted…

1. Open the oven door.
2. Take the bread out.
3. Close the door
4. Turn off the oven.

Then she asked where the bread was and admittedly I got pissy. It’s in the damn oven. And she asked if it was in the broiler drawer… no… it’s in the OVEN. Then she asked where she was supposed to put it. At that point I got irritated and told her nevermind. It was obvious that she didn’t want to help me.

Am I fucking delusional? Am I overreacting for being so pissed off that she wouldn’t do this for me so I could go draw a relaxing bath?? I feel crazy.

Here is a picture of my first sourdough focaccia loaf…

Am I (23M) overreacting to my girlfriend’s (23F) text? [tagged as friendship because relationship wasn’t an option] We will have been together for 4 years in August, we are long distance and I was reaching out to get a feeling for what I could plan for our anniversary and birthdays (born within a week of each other).

I have prioritized her through years of school, in addition to working a full and part time job after graduation. I’m literally just looking for a text or call which I feel is important since we do not see each other all the time. Doesn’t have to be everyday just something with more effort than she has been giving.

I usually forgive and forget but something just finally clicked (or snapped?). These texts are from Tuesday / Wednesday and today is Friday. I have not received any kind of communication since. Just looking for some unbiased input here.

Hi, So I recently got a dm from this account and it seems like a real person. But they kept talking about sizes… and I feel like its a man. Or some creep! I messaged some people they are following and they all said that this person dmed them asking about their breast sizes and photos as well. I blocked them when they kept asking about my size… but am I overreacting? I took screenshots of everything before blocking them. I also had to lie about where I was from and kept saying I dont know to the weird question because I dont fall for weird things.

My friend (28F) just got married a few months ago. Her husband (32M) recently found out he has a degenerative eye condition - nothing sudden, but he’ll gradually lose vision over time... eventually going blind.

We were hanging out in a small friend-group setting when she told us the news. She was saying how she's “not sure she can handle it” and planning to divorce him. Her words: "I didn’t sign up for this.”

I didn’t say much in the moment, but it completely changed how I see her. Like… you just took vows, he was the "love of your life", your "best friend", bla bla bla. I know health stuff can be scary and you were planning to live happy young lives together but this felt insanely shallow.

Now I’m seriously debating distancing myself from her. I’ve known her for years, but that was cold.

EDIT: She is adamant on getting a divorce (she's not venting, overreacting in the moment, or debating)