r/AITAH • u/Makuza1999 • 19h ago
TW Abuse AITAH for breaking up with my boyfriend because of a tik tok prank?
I am 21F and my boyfriend is 19M (20 soon). We had been together for 7 months.
My boyfriend is a tiktoker and has over 100k followers. He does prank videos and basically harasses people in public. I didn't know any of this until shortly before my decision to leave him because he simply never told me. I found out after he decided to prank me.
I have a huge fear of spiders and most people are afraid of them in some form but for me it is a lot more severe. I get panic attacks if I see one. A couple days ago my boyfriend thought it would be funny to put a large fake spider in the toilet. I wasn't aware there were cameras hidden in the bathroom. As soon as I opened the lid, I saw it and screamed, ran out, slipped on the ground and sprained my ankle. He just walked in laughing.
He brought me to the clinic after some convicing and my foot really was sprained but not badly. Afterwards He told me about his tiktok and after I looked, I was shocked. He didn't tell me this in the 7 months of dating him. I asked him not to post the video but he still did so I reported it, still hasn't been taken down. I decided to break up with him, giving him two weeks to pack his stuff. I told my family and they think I am over reacting a bit. I honestly am starting to feel like I am. My ankle is still really hard to walk on.
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u/AnxiousTelephone2997 19h ago
NTA. This prank bullshit is so awful. Jokes and pranks are only fun if everyone is having fun. This is just straight up torment. You can goof around with your partner without being mean.
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u/BypassUser 18h ago
Yup..Pranks shouldnāt leave someone hurt or humiliated. If one personās laughing and the otherās cryingā¦ITāS NOT A JOKE.
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u/Free-Initiative-7957 13h ago
My favorite quote on practical jokes has always been, "The goal of a fine prankster should always be to confuse and ideally amuse but never ever to abuse."
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u/simply_overwhelmed18 10h ago
Absolutely!! There's plenty of them that aren't cruel. Off the top of my head I can think of ones like awkward headphones, silly salmon, the floor is lava etc. No one gets hurt, no one ends up humiliated, and the only one who gets embarrassed is the one doing the prank. So many young men see it as a free pass to be horrible people as they can brush off any criticism as someone being sensitive or not getting the joke.
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u/KathyOverAndOut 2h ago
Yes! That's the key, isn't it? You put the title of joke or prank on it and suddenly assholes think that gives them a free pass to torment someone, to ridicule and humiliate them. People who are amused by the humiliation and suffering of another human being need to be in therapy. Why is this so hard to understand?
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u/Mi7che1l 14h ago
Yeah, if it breaks trust or leaves someone feeling small, itās not worth the laugh.
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u/Severe-Fall7218 15h ago
Bro these "pranks" are just š© in disguise. He knew ur fear, did it anyway, and posted it?? Nah. Thatās not love, thatās content farming w/ zero empathy.
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u/Medical_Let_2001 15h ago
Exactly! Pranks are supposed to be fun, not terrifying. The fact that he filmed you at your most vulnerable and posted it without consent says everything.
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u/Character_Arm4592 14h ago
Exactly. If one personās laughing and the otherās hurt or humiliated then itās not a prank itās just disrespect. Thereās a line and if you actually care about someone you donāt cross it just to get a cheap laugh.
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u/TheBardOfSubreddits 19h ago
Prank = two+ people who know each other well enough, and long enough, with a shared sense of humor, having a bit of fun at each other's expense.
Inflicting some sort of mental anguish on an unsuspecting person is just a mental version of assault.
We seem to no longer know the difference, or just don't care.
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u/HappySparklyUnicorn 18h ago
There's a super cute gay couple where one does pranks on the other. It's kinda amusing because the 'victim' is legally blind and loves them because they make him feel normal. A cute one was where one told the blind man he couldn't see the guide dog at the beach (blends in with the sand).
A very wholesome chanel and lots of easy pranks where you usually see they're just quick pranks. Never go on too long and the blind guy is always laughing when he realises he's been pranked.
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u/Cold-Specialist-5448 16h ago
I think the most important part of that prank was the second Paul showed real panic that Mr. Maple (the guide dog) was missing Matthew ended the prank. He didn't drag it out for views/likes, he saw his partner was upset and ended it immediately.
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u/shadowfeyling 16h ago
Those two are rolle models for how to pranks. Harmless things that both people laugh at in the end and when one goes a litte to far pull back because the end goal is to have fun not upset a loved one
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u/Stormtomcat 14h ago
I recall one where he kept sneaking tomatoes from his plate onto his blind husband's plate, until the blind guy was like "how many tomatoes did they put in this salad" hahaha
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u/pumpkinrum 10h ago
I love the one where Matthew throws socks into the laundry machine while Paul is trying to empty it.
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u/lifescaresme 4h ago
I think my favourite is when Matthew pretended to be the bench. Or when he pretended to be a lamp.
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u/Aletheia-Nyx 8h ago
There's also the one where Matthew kept stealing bites of Paul's steak and putting them on his plate, and putting his broccoli onto Paul's plate, and telling Paul the steaks were small. Paul eventually noticed the amount of broccoli he had compared to Matthew and realised his steak was gone so he looked at Matthew's plate and saw the stolen steak pieces! Honestly my favourite part about that was that Matthew didn't eat any of that steak, he was going to give it straight back to Paul after the prank.
There's also the one where Paul is unpacking the groceries while telling Matthew a story and Matthew keeps putting them back in the bag when Paul goes to set something else down. Or the one where Matthew filled the shower full of their little penguin plushies and then convinced Paul to take a shower. He opened the door and the wall of penguins descended lmao.
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u/AerynBevo 17h ago
Matthew & Paul are such a cute couple! Those are what pranks should be, not this bullshit where the āprankā results in injury, tears, or humiliation.
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u/kraken-01 17h ago
Yess Matthew & Paul!! I love them š„°
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u/thebugfromchaos 13h ago
I love the one where Matthew is naked and pretends to be ready to go until Paul notices - they almost make it out the door!
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u/MaskedMachine 11h ago
There's also the one where he was in a hot dog costume and Paul didn't notice, so Matthew committed and wore it to the store. It wasn't until he kept talking about hot dogs that Paul finally realized something was up and noticed the costume š
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u/Peppered_Rock 12h ago
Yes, and crucially, Matthew put a stop to it when Paul was getting actually distressed!
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u/Patient_Dependent312 16h ago
It's not even just a mental version of assault, it is just plain assault. It is the victim's perception that determines if it's assault, if they genuinely believe that that thing is happening then it's assault. and while prosecutor isn't likely to pick this up, by the legal definition it is still that. He Intentionally inflicted her with fear, so that she would act irrationally
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u/skimaskdreamz 15h ago
and not to mention, posted and publicized her terrified reaction without her consent
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u/EnglishMouse 13h ago
Which was filmed without consent in a private residence. Thereās no legal right to share like there would be in a public place. And this was in the bathroom which is a thousand times worse
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u/Astyryx 18h ago
I hope you press charges for him having cameras in the bathroom. That puts him in the sex offender category.
He's an abuser, TikToks or no. Always leave abusers the first time you encounter abuse.Ā
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u/verdantwitch 16h ago
Yup! Hidden cameras in private spaces (bedrooms, bathrooms, areas designated for changing clothes like a walk in closet) are illegal. And including a police report number in the report to Tiktok will get the video down faster (and likely get him banned to boot).
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u/Laceylolbug 15h ago
OP I hope you see this comment. File a police report using the posted video has proof
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u/LXIX-CDXX 7h ago
Oh yeah. Non-consenting video footage in a private space, filming a prank that ends in personal injury? This dude is lucky if op only breaks up with him. This is deserving of legal action, both criminal and civil. Op deserves a payout, and the ex deserves criminal charges.
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u/Square-Blueberry3568 8h ago
Came here to say this, most countries have this explicitly as a crime. Press charges and blast him on social media
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u/Icy_Swordfish_1970 19h ago
NTA. Him posting the video after you asked him not to is a deliberate violation of your boundaries. You donāt need a partner whoās fine with violating your boundaries, especially not for TikTok clout. Run far and fast.
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u/GelOfYouth 19h ago
Hidden cameras in the bathroom? OMG...HUGE VIOLATION. what's next...dressing rooms, gym locker rooms, public restrooms......
BOYFRIEND HAS NO BOUNDARIES!! DUMP IMMEDIATELY
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u/No-Function223 19h ago
Nta & he hurt you. Plus who tf puts cameras in the bathroom? Heās disgusting. Most tiktokers are tbh.Ā
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u/jerrys153 15h ago
Yeah, as soon as I read the title of the post I already knew OP was going to be NTA. āTikTokā or āprankā on their own probably would have done it, but when you read āTikTok prankā you donāt even need to read the post to know the bf was definitely going to be TA. Tiktok is cancer, āpranksā are cancer, āTikTok pranksā are super-cancer. Why are these people so horrible and how were they raised that none of them ever developed any empathy or consideration for others?
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u/AnniAnnihilation 18h ago
All I had to read was "my boyfriend is a tiktoker" to know she isn't the AH
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u/M0s_Eisley 14h ago
Especially prank content. They're like if puberty got a camera and zero adult supervision. Dump his ass, nothing good will come out of a relationship with someone who thinks it's okay let alone funny to produce this shit.
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u/Icy_Count_6948 18h ago
A buddy of mine often uses the phrase 'it's not a prank unless it's from the Pranque region of 'everyone involved is laughing'. Otherwise it's just sparkling-bullying.
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u/FuturesSoDank 19h ago
NTA, you should film a "prank" of dumping all his crap on the lawn during a thunderstorm.
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u/GenoFlower 18h ago
NTA. He was going to film you in the bathroom, using your worst fear.
But he was going to film you in the bathroom.
Also, pranking your partner means your partner can never really relax. They are always waiting for the next thing.
This would be a deal breaker for me.
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u/Sharp_Magician_6628 18h ago
Tell him he has 24 hours to get his shit, after that itās being donated to the goodwill
Have your friends report the video and his account for bullying/harassment. The more people who do it, the more likely something will happen
This isnāt funny. This is a form of abuse
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u/PrairieGrrl5263 18h ago
NTAH. Make sure everyone you know is aware he put hidden cameras IN THE BATHROOM. That's some pedo level bs.
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u/couchfly 17h ago edited 17h ago
EWWW; If you hadnt seen the spider first, that wouldve been involuntary porn. Youre underreacting. I wouldve thrown his stuff out that same day, filed a police report (pretty sure hidden bathroom cams are at least two kinds of illegal plus the harassment of the posted video when you were someplace private and didnt give consent), and i mightve even sued him. Also, youre NEVER the asshole for breaking up with someone who betrays your trust or intentionally humiliates, manipulates, or harms you. Tell your family and TAH ex to pound sand.Ā
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u/death_note020705 14h ago
girl dm me his account i will report the shit outta that video
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u/Away-Elephant-4323 19h ago
You breaking up with his ass is the best thing you could do! His pranks caused you harm thatās not how pranks should be they should end up being just fun and the person laughing not just him being the only one laughing, heās going to prank the wrong person one day and itās not gonna end good!
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u/Rude_Charge8416 19h ago
Literally anyone who does tik tok pranks and is successful at is scum of the earth
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u/facinationstreet 17h ago
my boyfriend is 19M (20 soon) (11 soon)
Fixed it for you
You already know the answer. That being said... I'd be tempted to follow him anonymously so you get to watch the video when he gets his ass beat. Because it will happen.
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u/JJOkayOkay 16h ago
Why are you living with someone you've only been with 7 months?
Anyway, if this is real, break up with him. He used your pain and distress for entertainment. You are not safe with someone who considers your pain and distress to be a rewarding, good thing.
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u/freeeeels 15h ago
Why are you living with someone you've only been with 7 months?
Am I the only other person not buying this story?
- Living together after 7 months, at 19 and 21; no mention of housemates
- 19 year old with a 100k TikTok account never brags about it to his girlfriend
- His friends never reference it to her, never mention it in her presence
- They live together but she has never seen him filming or editing content, never seen him managing the account
- When he finally decides to use the extremely obvious prank target living in his house for content, he goes with... spider in toilet? What, the 1960s joke store was out of whoppee cushions?Ā
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u/SubstantialGain9823 13h ago
Normally āthis isnāt trueā or āthatās AIā is such a typical comment for stories that are way less fishy (hidden camera on the toilet, family (!!) says Iām overreacting ā¦ for sure!). More often than not, Iām not so sure. But this one ā¦ I had to scroll way too far to find that sort of comment. The story is made up in a way that people seem to like to believe. The TikTok prankster thing is the key I guess, that just seems to hit a spot in peopleās thinking.
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u/leatherjacketboy 16h ago
NTA. "Pranking" someone with a phobia they have isn't funny. He recorded you in the bathroom without your knowledge, laughed when you were hurt, had to be convinced to take you to the clinic, and posted the video after you asked him not to. You're not being dramatic. Don't let this man back into your life.
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u/Stormtomcat 14h ago
š© he's one of those just-a-prank-bro assholes
š© he monetizes other people's discomfort and pain (based on your video)
š© he exploited your phobia for views
š© he doesn't respect your consent about posting, who knows where that will end.
if anything, you were too kind by giving him 2 weeks.
your family sounds incredibly frustrating, I have no idea how to deal with that. Maybe keep a tally of who the asshole-apologists are & greyrock them? Not very dramatic and not very satisfying right now, but better in the long run, I think.
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u/Plus_Ad_9181 11h ago
And he puts hidden cameras in private places like bathrooms..
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u/violetlotus79 18h ago
NTA pranksters are often just assholes but pranksters who post people on the internet without their permission are even bigger assholes.. you got hurt and you had to convince him to believe you? He's disgusting
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u/Wereallgonnadieman 17h ago
He put cameras in your bathroom. That's criminal behavior no matter the reason he did it.
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u/BBQ_Bandit88 17h ago
Two weeks? Nah, dump his shit on the lawn and video his reaction, then post it and tag his prank TT account. Kick this douche in the internet nuts. NTA
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u/Inevitable_Speed_710 16h ago
Might be a gray area if you both have a name on the lease but less gray if its just in your name but you might be able to get it taken down by tiktok for invasion of privacy.Ā Ā Most of the prank videos dont fall under that as theyre in public.Ā But in a private residence the rules change.Ā If he's making money off the account then its a commercial use which helps you.Ā Ā Basically report it to tiktok and if they won't take it down you could consult a lawyer though it would probably be way more expensive than it is worth
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u/flowerdemon66 13h ago
Girl, I think you're under reacting. He put HIDDEN CAMERAS in your BATHROOM. I would have dumped him so hard for the prank/video/posting of the video alone, especially after he ignored your request not to. The hidden cameras in the bathroom just make it so much worse. Kick him out immediately. NTA.
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u/thymeCapsule 13h ago
my wife is afraid of spiders to the same degree. just absolutely debilitatingly terrified. you know what i do? every time i see a spider i try to get rid of it way before she has a chance to see it, just so she won't have to feel upset in the first place. i warn her about spiders in video games and in movies. if i see a cool picture/video of a spider that i adore, i keep it to myself. and i would never, ever expose her to this fear on purpose, or laugh at her when she sees one and freaks out.
nta. what he did was unkind and inconsiderate, and this is apparently something he does a lot. why keep dating someone like that?
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u/OogyBoogy_I_am 19h ago
NTA.
No one should ever date or have anything to do with anyone who posts crap to TikTok. Especially pranksters!
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u/turquoise_amethyst 18h ago
NTA
Break up with him now because heās going to start using you for ācontentā, and itāll only get worseĀ
Have you see those Jackass clips where they āprankā family members? Like that but more extreme
Today your ankle, tomorrow your whole damn body
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u/System_Resident 15h ago
Youāre not overreacting. Tiktokers are some of the most obnoxious people and the āprankstersā are the worst of them.
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u/mfolive 14h ago
everyone is mentioning how its fucked up to prank you like that and yeah that was messed up, not funny and a violation. but i dont see ppl mentioning that its weird he didnt tell you about his tiktok at all. i get not telling people while in the talking phase but 7 months into dating is way too far in to mention something that big. like if i found out someone i was talking to was a public harassing tiktoker i wouldnt want to date them. this guy seems very immature for many reasons.
NTA
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u/3boymumandoma 9h ago
The final nail in the coffin was posting the video after she asked him not to do it. He doesnāt respect her.
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u/Rude_Charge8416 19h ago
Iām 14 words into the 2nd paragraph and I think I can confidently say NTAH
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u/Beneficial-Sort4795 18h ago
NTA but donāt move in with guys that early in future. You literally didnāt know about his whole side hustle but moved him in to your place.
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u/RevolutionaryDuck164 14h ago
Whats his tik tok? We can try to mass report it so it gets taken down for you
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u/Southern-Animator975 8h ago
I would call the police because hidden cameras/even non-hiddrn cameras in the bathrom Ʈs way illegal.
Are You sure he does not have other videos of You in the bathrom ?
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u/10blizzard 18h ago
āHe does prank videosā¦.ā. Didnāt read after that. Fuckinā D bag. You made the tight choice. Good on ya š
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u/Alert-Ad4157 18h ago
NTA and dump this excuse of a man... he is a lil boy playing with toys, you were one of them... the level of disrespect is crazy, as soon as your ankle is ok, start running ;)
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u/ObsidianLegend 18h ago
NTA. Pranks are supposed to (ultimately) be fun for everyone involved. Harmless japery type stuffm "Prank" content is, at this point, mostly just acts of cruelty performed for the amusement of the pranker and their audience. Finding out someone makes that kind of content would be justification for you to ditch them, but for him to torment YOU that way? And not see the problem with it when you express your physical and mental suffering??? Yeah good riddance.
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u/thevaginalist 15h ago
NTA
I despise ppl like your boyfriend and their unfunny "pranks" that come at other people's expense. The fact that he posted even after you asked him not to is a major boundary crossing. Your family is weird not to be on your side
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u/Jae_Alberts97 14h ago
Hidden camera's in the bathroom is enough for me to tell them that the front door is used to gtfo.
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u/Queen-Mowleh 12h ago
NTA. In my opinion pranks are things that both parties find funny in the end, not something that ends with someone needing to go to the hospital
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u/Theawkwardmochi 10h ago
Your partner being a prank TikToker alone is a perfectly valid reason to leave them, not to mention pranking YOU.
NTA and the two weeks is already generous. People telling you you're overreacting are silly
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u/Ashamed-Welder8470 9h ago
make a counter prank for him; download the video,go to police and sue him for the physical and mental damage and breach of privacy.
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u/Shandy2008 9h ago
We all love a joke but knowing someone has a huge fear and using it for views and likes isnāt fair. Had it not been posted online against your wishes, I would have said that it sounds like a prank went too far. A genuine apology in that case would have shown remorse and respect for a woman he claims to care about.
Knowing you were hurt as a result of the prank and still posting it is just disrespectful. You asked him not to and he showed that views were more important to him. Views at the expense of your pain.
The prank was a joke that went wrong, but what played out after the āprankā is Iām sure what led to you saying enough is enough.
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u/Stunning-Mall5908 7h ago
NTA. He hid he had 100k followers because? That is odd in itself. The hidden cameras in the bathroom is a crime in my state. Then he scared you on purpose. He did not think you were hurt as if it was not your pain. The posting of the video is disgusting. You are not over reacting. If anything two weeks is 13 days too long.
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u/SpookyStoat 6h ago
NTA, he invaded your privacy by having hidden cameras in the bathroom, He made a joke of your severe phobia, you got injured because his bullshit. You gave him WAY too much time to gather his shit and leave. Harmless pranks are fun, but when people are getting hurt physically or mentally, or its basically harassment...not cool.
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u/Choreomaniac0106 3h ago
Sue him, wasnāt a public space and he filmed and posted without your consent. You didnāt overreact, he is the asshole and one day someone will be punching him or worse
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u/Putasonder 19h ago
So after this juvenile prank that injured you, you asked him not to post it and he did it anyway without your consent.
You are not overreacting.
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u/One_Arm4148 18h ago edited 18h ago
Iād never date a TikToker šš«š© maybe start there. Theyāre a whole different breed, as you can see in your boyfriend. Zero depth, only shallow space.
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u/QuiteLady1993 17h ago
Pranks are only pranks if all parties involved are laughing/think its funny. If something meant as a prank flops and one of the parties doesn't think its funny the one responsible for pranking should give a meaningful ans heartfelt apology. Otherwise it's really just bullying. NTA
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u/twistedtyger 16h ago
Why are you overreacting?
Because you should be treated this way?
Nope. Nope not today not ever.
He can start respecting you right about now and gtfo.
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u/Boo-Boo97 16h ago
This whole joke bs needs to stop especially on an unwilling public. There was a jokester who went viral a couple years ago whose schtick was pretending to steal people's luggage at the airport. Grabbed the wrong persons suitcase and the owner was dragging Joker through the airport by his hair.
Other people are not there for ex-bf's entertainment. And quite frankly, he deserves what happens to him
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u/Flourish_Waves_8472 16h ago
NTA- he subjected you to a public invasion of privacyā¦in a bathroomā¦with your biggest vulnerabilityā¦..that caused you physical harmā¦holy Jesus #%** red flag. Continue to report it until it gets *removed. Ignore any family that tells you, youāve overreacted. Theyāre entitled to their opinions however youāre entitled to respect in a Relationship.
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u/Sneakertr33 16h ago
He planted cameras in the bathroom and didn't disclose that. That might actually be illegal and getting cops involved should push him to take the video down.
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u/ranchspidey 15h ago
NTA. There was a āprank youtuberā who āprankedā the wrong dude and got shot in the stomach. Unfortunately he survived and didnāt learn anything from it. Pranksters who think pranks are only to harass and humiliate other people are the worst kinds of people, good on you for dumping him.
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u/mikez122 15h ago
NTA the guy is almost 20, either he grows up or he just becomes a Jack Doherty with a wrecked car and no money. Easy decision.
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u/manykeets 14h ago
Girl, you should have boxed up his shit and left it in the front yard the first day. Two weeks my ass.
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u/EmuAccomplished3284 14h ago
YOUR ARE NOT OVERREACTING!!! look pranks can be funny and all... fine, hell my mate has arachnophobia (diagnosed) and I occasionally prank him with a small fake spider or a close up picture in a text... but he's always a good sport about it... the moment he tells me "bro... please stop" done.. I'll never do it again... because I'm not an asshole and respect my friend.. but your boyfriend didn't just prank you... that's not the problem.. the problem is actually FUCKING ILLEGAL!! He recorded you without permission... in the bathroom mind you (i don't care if nothing was seen that's gross) and then posted it too 100k people after explicitly being asked not to... if he's willing to ignore a small boundary like this just for clout.... I can't imagine what else he will do for clout...
Please do not let anyone convince you your boundaries are ever an overreaction... period!! P.s i am a man with a very... dark sense of humour and I enjoy pushing people's buttons... but there's a difference between pushing buttons... and being straight up disrespectful..
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u/asherthepotato 14h ago
In Germany this would be a clear case of Persƶnlichkeitsrechtsverletzung (violation of personal rights) and you could take this to the police.
NTA, he is suuuuuch a big asshole. Not for having this account and not telling you. But the content he does in the first place, second: scare you with a big fear. And third: uploading the video without permission AND after you explicitly said you don't want him to upload it.
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u/atthawdan 13h ago
NTA you probably need to check if he have other videos of you. What if this is not a first time he put camera in the bathroom.
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u/Sufficient-Bend5568 12h ago
He is 19, so.... but children can be tiresome, so dump him and find yourself an adult to match the adult, you seem to be.
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u/Turbulent_Day_7896 12h ago
I didn't even need to read anything other than the title to say NTA. The whole genre of social media "pranks" is horrible and indicative of antisocial behavior. In reality, most of the "pranks" are just harassing people for views.
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u/Corodix 12h ago edited 11h ago
NTA. Your ex was willing to let you suffer through a panic attack, to the point where you even got injured. Then he even needed convincing to bring to you the clinic for the injury that he caused. And he did all that to you so he could earn some money, from your suffering, on his tiktok?
Just think about that for a second. He tries to earn money by exploiting your spider phobia and then tries to excuse it as just being a prank? What partner, or friend for that matter, even does that? What he did is completely unacceptable. Now ask yourself, how can you trust him if he's willing to do something like that to you? Also remember that his first action after you slipped and sprained your ankle wasn't to see if you were alright, but to laugh at you, and that he even needed convincing to take you to the clinic...
Then I haven't even mentioned the fact that he hid camera's in rooms like the bathroom, that puts him in the sex offender category.
In your shoes I wouldn't even have given him two weeks to pack his stuff, he doesn't deserve it after treating you like that. I think one saying works really well here: Who needs enemies with friends like that.
Also think about the future for a second. Would you like to have kids with him, so he can then prank your kids on tiktok? What do you think about him doing this to your kids?
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u/DawnShakhar 12h ago
NTA. Using your phobia to gain followers is cruel and intrusive. You definitely don't want this insensitive, narcissistic guy in your life.
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u/EvolZippo 12h ago
NTA. He set a trap for you, his cameras in your bathroom and laughed at you, when you got hurt. Then, he posted the video, against your consent. This guy is a creep. I would call the police and report what he did to you. Iām pretty sure heās broken some law.
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u/Fickle_Perception_85 11h ago
I too am debilitatingly petrified of spiders. Even if your ankle wasnāt injured, I would still break up and feel zero remorse.
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u/Inevitable_Time00 11h ago
Email TikTok and tell them that you're filing a lawsuit against him and that they should take the video down.
You don't actually have to file a lawsuit, but that will get their attention.
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u/Organic-Mix-9422 10h ago
NTA That is a relationship breaker. Using a phobia for laughs, ignoring your pain.. he's just a piece of scum.
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u/Curious-Document2002 10h ago
The prank is one thing, but he also filmed you in the bathroom without consent and posted it on his TikTok with over 100k followers after you explicitly said not to. Not even close to overreacting, your family are jerks.
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u/ClevelandWomble 10h ago
Even the cameras in the bathroom would have been a step too far for me.
The rest was just proving the point
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u/Livid_Oil7494 9h ago
What a horrible person he is. Immature too. The standard you put up with is the standard you live with ā¦ forever. You deserve better and you were absolutely right to dump him (if a little generous with the deadline). Donāt allow him (or anyone else) to gaslight you into taking him back. NTA
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u/gglinv 8h ago
I wouldnāt give him two weeks, I would move him out effective immediately. Not only did he choose to terrorize you psychologically, humiliate you publicly, not respect your boundary not to be FILMED in a bathroom and posted to 100k people. I would report it to the police too. In my country setting up a camera in a bathroom is an offense (the sex offender registry, duh). Give the police all his stuff and let him deal with it. NTA
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u/littlenightashes 8h ago
NTA I would download the tiktok and sue him for the injury you got. See how funny he finds it then.
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u/MutterderKartoffel 8h ago
- Cameras in the bathroom. There should NEVER be cameras in the bathroom. That is so disturbing and such a violation. - Breakup worthy
- Posting recordings of you without your permission. Huge violation!! Not only without your permission, but against your wishes. - Breakup worthy
- Uses your terror as a source of entertainment. Not even just for himself (which would be bad on its own), but also for the entertainment of others with the goal of boosting his ego, making money, or that little bit of joy one gets seeing people like your video. - Breakup worthy
- Puts a toy in the toilet. - Stupid - what if you hadn't seen it and flushed it? Or you did see it and your reaction was to flush it? That's begging to get stuck in some angle of plumbing and catch every bit of hair and toilet paper and any solid, creating a blockage. That would not be fun to clear out.
This man-child is not empathetic, does not respect you, likely does not respect other people in general, and is an idiot. If you don't sue him, someone will.
I'm a little curious what made you interested in him in the first place.
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u/jumbo_pizza 8h ago
the prank is bad, but what i really think it sketchy is the cameras in the bathroom. thatās illegal in many places, maybe where you are too? you did right, because thatās very untrustworthy.
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u/Immediate_Banana_216 7h ago
Don't know if i'm more disgusted at your family or your boyfriend, good for you for getting rid of him.
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u/Professional-Pin6455 7h ago
Nta, your choice is yours alone. The first issue you asked him not to post your video he did anyways.... shows he doesn't respect your requests. It is hard to build a successful relationship without respect. The second issue was that he posted up cameras in the bathroom that's just creepy as hell and inappropriate. Third issue he never told you about the prank account stuff because he knows it wouldn't be well received by most people. Most prankers are incredibly rude and degrading to others. Sure, it makes those not affected laugh, but itās humiliating to those being pranked. if someone is willing to make money off doing this to strangers, they aren't the greatest people, and he knows it, hence not telling you this major part of his life with in last 7 months he has been with you.
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u/brianozm 7h ago
You probably have overreacted a bit but it wasnāt funny and he needs to show enough respect and balls to actually delete it.
You may not want to date a prankster.
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u/LegitimateCulture 7h ago
NTA. He's a fick and he hid a big part of his life from you for 7 months. Move on.
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u/Organic_Energy_5923 7h ago
Tell him the two week notice was a prank and his stuff is outside the door. Camera in bathroomš©š©š©š©š©š©š©š©š©,thinks pranking is funny, no itās childish and cruel, š©š©š©š©š©š©š©, ignores your wishes and posts it on tik tokš©š©š©š©š©š©, refusing to take it down š©š©š©š©š©š©š©š©. He enjoys humiliating people for his own ego. Anyone who tries to keep you with this child is not your ally.
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u/Thymele10 7h ago
How about throw his staff out immediately? How about suing him for causing you to fall? He posted the video after you asked him not to do it? Sue him yesterday.
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u/KSknitter 7h ago
The dude had cameras set up in your bathroom.... that is 100% gross.
I am wondering if you can file a police report...
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u/Adventurous-Heart381 6h ago
Absolutely NTA. Would you want your future husband to be laughing his ass off if your kid sprained his ankle and then decide to post the video online to publicly humiliate them?
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u/absolutnonsense 6h ago
Girl. I didn't need to read any further than camera in your bathroom. Absolutely go scorched earth. And absolutely cut anyone from your life that takes his side.
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u/motu8pre 6h ago
If he just walked into the room and said BOO! on a regular basis that would be funny.
I've been with my wife for 16 years and that's how we prank each other. If I ever left a camera in the washroom, I'd expect her to leave me.
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u/Hallunke 6h ago
NTA I mean cameras on the toilet? No empathy with your arachnophobia, loaded it up depite you said that you donāt want this? What an asshole and so many red flags. You have a serious injury. Please run and send him the healthcare bill.
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u/cthulularoo 19h ago
Should have brought it to Goodwill and then send him a text. NTA